DOWN SEX AND DOWN HUGGING
by Dr. Lawrence Wilson
© January 1, 2021, LD Wilson Consultants, Inc.
All information in this article is solely the opinion of the author and for educational purposes only. It is not for the diagnosis, treatment, prescription or cure of any disease or health condition.
Warning: This is a somewhat sexy article. This website is not sexy. However, we include this article because down coupling is a powerful healing therapy when done correctly. We advocate sexual relations with oneÕs marriage partner and no one else.
Definition And Three Variants
Down Sex Versus Ordinary Sex
Summary Of A Session
The Biggest Hurdle
What To Expect
For How Long?
Who Can Do Down Sex, And How Often?
Activities During Down Sex or Down Hugging
The Pulling Down Exercise
Red Heat Lamp
Listening To CDs
Warning. At first, down sex is not easy for men. It only works if it is a team effort of both of the partners. At times, the couple must wear some clothing, which some people do not like, but it may be needed to have success.
Definitions. Down coupling is a very powerful empathic healing and Development method. Empathic in this context means that the procedure involves two people.
Essentially, a man and a woman hold an embrace, with or without sexual intercourse, for about two and a half hours. They can take short breaks during this time. However, they need to remain within about 10 feet or 3 meters of each other to complete a session.
The embrace causes blending of the subtle energy fields of the partners and this has excellent healing effects on both people. It is quite mysterious and one of the most powerful healing and development procedures!
The procedure is very ancient, but it is not taught much. We are helping to bring it back to public awareness.
The three ways down coupling can be done are:
1. Down sex. This is an embrace with insertion of the penis in the vagina.
2. Down hugging. This is an embrace without sexual intercourse.
3. Visualizing either down sex or down hugging. This is done alone, and one visualizes down sex or down hugging with another. It works best if the person one visualizes is fairly close by, such as in the same home, although this is not necessary.
This article will discuss each of these procedures separately.
We receive many email messages regarding the benefits and enjoyment of down sex. Here are a few:
ÒI experienced a severe rape at age 16. I started a development program, and am better. However, problems remained that I could not solve. I cried most every day, and could not think or function in the world.
Someone suggested that my husband and I try down sex. It is the only thing, in addition to the development program, that has worked to heal my body and brain. I highly recommend this procedure. – Jane, USA
DOWN SEX VERSUS ORDINARY SEX
Most people are not familiar with down sex because it is not taught much. However, it is not strange, kinky or anything like that. It is a simple embrace that one holds for a time with oneÕs husband or wife that has powerful healing effects.
In contrast, ordinary sex with orgasm, also called up sex, is always somewhat harmful for both women and men. Here are the reasons why:
1. It moves subtle energy upward through the body. This is the reverse of the way subtle energy should flow through the body.
2. It almost always irritates the vagina because it is too rough, even if it is done gently. A womanÕs vagina is much more delicate than a penis, in all cases. You must instruct your sexual partner about this!
3. It often leaves points and scars in the vagina, again because it is too rough. Points are explained later in this article.
4. Receiving sexual fluid of a man is harmful, even if it feels wonderful. It is full of toxic metals.
5. Ordinary sex spins a womanÕs energy centers backwards, giving her pleasure but depleting her body energetically.
6. The muscular contraction of ordinary orgasms always causes some nutritional depletion of women. Men do not experience this nearly as much.
7. A womanÕs energy field opens wide during ordinary orgasms and she picks up the energies of her sexual partner. This is usually harmful for women.
8. Many women get diseases from ordinary sex because it is somewhat rough and causes tiny cuts and bruises in the entire vaginal areas, thighs, abdomen, lips, mouth and elsewhere.
9. Unwanted pregnancy is much more likely with ordinary sex than with down sex.
10. The usual position for ordinary sex puts women at a disadvantage. They are mainly pinned down, passive and rather out of control. Down sex is much more even in this regard.
11. The chance of rape is far greater with ordinary sex than it is with down sex. The reasons are that with down sex the woman is much more in control of her own body and in control of the overall sex act.
12. Ordinary sex is not particularly healing for the body or mind. Down sex, by contrast, involves blending of the subtle energy fields in unusual ways that greatly speed up healing and development of the bodies of both partners.
13. Ordinary sex causes women and men to lose much more sexual fluid than does down sex. Losing sexual fluid is always harmful for women and men.
14. Ordinary sex is often tiring or even exhausting for women, and sometimes for men. Down sex actually rests and energizes the partners.
15. Ordinary sex has a significant yin effect on the bodies. This is harmful. Down sex has a significant yang effect on the bodies, and this is very beneficial.
16. Ordinary sex releases some negative or yin energy. This occurs because the motion of the penis in and out cuts the etheric energy field of the woman in a particular way. This depletes the partners, a little. Down sex does not cause the release of this energy.
17. Ordinary sex usually does not resolve sexual traumas, and may cause more trauma. Clients report that down sex is a type of psychodrama that helps heal sexual traumas.
In summary, compared to ordinary sex, down sex is safer, gentler, cleaner, more protective against infections, more enjoyable, and causes intense healing and much faster development.
This is a very important topic, and one that few people know about. Please read about it and talk to your partner about it.
SUMMARY OF A DOWN SEX SESSION
- Most people lie down comfortably together, facing one another. A good method is to buy about four or five 3-inch memory foam mattress toppers and put them one on top of the other. This allows the partners to be in various lying down positions comfortably.
Memory foam is a little warm. However, the partners will often feel somewhat cold during the procedure, so this is not a problem. In fact, most people require a sheet or blanket over them.
- An alternative position is sitting with the woman facing the man, sitting on the manÕs lap with her legs straddling his waist. For comfort, the woman can sit on a prayer bench that are sold on the internet. This keeps her weight off the manÕs legs.
Preparation. Most people brush their teeth before starting a session. Some people like showering before starting a session.
Clothing: This is optional. Women often like to wear a plastic garbage bag tied around the waist, which acts like a giant condom. It protects from both pregnancy and transmission of diseases.
If desired, the couple can wear tee shirts or even more clothes. Clothing will help reduce sexual excitement for the man. This is sometimes needed to prevent him from having an orgasm. In other instances, less clothing is better because he will be more stimulated and this may be needed to maintain an erection.
Depth of insertion. It is best if the penis is placed at least one inch or more inside the vagina.
The feeling. In about 5-6 minutes after beginning a session, one or both partners will notice a slight tingling in the body. This will continue for two to two and one half hours. Then it will suddenly stop. This is the end of the session.
Pull down. For the greatest effectiveness, both partners need to move energy downward from their heads to their feet during every down sex, down hug or visualization session. This will greatly enhance the healing effects. For details, read The Pulling Down Exercise.
Orgasms. The focus of the procedure is on the embrace, not on having orgasms. Actually, male orgasm usually ends the session or the couple needs to shift to a down hugging session.
This is difficult for some couples. However, many men and women know that orgasms tire out the body.
How often. The couple can repeat down sex up to about three times per week. It can be done more often, but the tingling sensation will only occur about three times a week.
If a man has a cooperative partner, she can learn to regulate his erection during down sex, and he can just relax with it. Here is how to do this:
If the husband is too stimulated:
A. The woman can visualize pushing the penis out of her body as hard as she can. For some reason, this helps more than anything else to stop him from having an orgasm. It also moves subtle energy in the right direction for her.
B. To stop an orgasm, she may need to avoid moving around too much, giggling, wearing scents, tickling him and being completely unclothed.
C. The man can distract himself with stray thoughts. Think of work, your children, or something else unrelated to the procedure. This can oppose an orgasm.
D. Relax. Many men are in a hurry when they have sex, or they think they must ÒperformÓ with a lot of in and out or other motions. Skip all this effort and relax.
E. The couple can use a plastic trash bag as both a condom and to reduce sexual stimulation. It is much thicker than a standard condom so it reduces sensation for the man. New plastic trash bags are quite clean. However, you can wash the bag with soap and water before using it if you wish.
If the man cannot maintain an erection. If the man is too relaxed and the penis motionless, he may lose his erection. In this case:
A. The woman can imagine in her mind playing with the penis and testicles. She can visualize tickling it, twisting it, etc.
B. She can take off some clothing.
C. She or he can move the hips a little, moving the penis around.
D. She and he can think or talk sexy.
E. She can rub or tickle his back, arms or elsewhere.
H. She can visualize pulling the penis and testis into her body, as though she is pulling them off his body. This often works. However, it moves subtle energy in the wrong direction – upward toward her head, instead of downward toward her feet – so it is not recommended.
Signals. It helps if the partners set up simple signals so that he can easily and quickly let her know that he is getting too stimulated or that he is losing his erection. She can then quickly take the actions above to correct the situation.
Eventually, she will feel when he is losing his erection and perhaps she will even feel if he is getting too stimulated.
It is fine to take short breaks or rests during down sex and down hugging and visualization sessions. These may be needed in order to:
1. Stretch and change positions.
2. Go to the bathroom.
3. Drink some water.
4. Other, such as eat some food or another chore.
Recommendations for breaks:
To get the most development out of your down sex sessions, during every break twist the spine, pop the toes and knees, and do a short foot rub.
The rules for breaks:
1. Do not go far from your partner. Preferably stay within 10 feet of each other. If you need to go to the refrigerator for food, bring your partner alongside of you so you are within 10 feet of her or him. This has to do with the blending that is occurring during a sessions.
2. Keep breaks to less than 10 to 15 minutes long. If they are longer, you may have to start the session over. If this occurs, you have to wait about two days before the tingling sensation will occur again.
Continuation of session. As long as the partners remain within about 10 feet or 3 meters of each other, the session actually continues during the break. If the partners move further than about 10 feet or 3 meters from each other, it breaks the bond or connection between them. The session is then over and one needs to start over from the beginning.
However, if the session ends it takes about two days before the partners can have another session. So for the most rapid healing, plan to stay within 10 feet or 3 meters of each other for two and one-half hours.
OTHER PROCEDURAL MATTERS
At first. When you first learn down sex, it is helpful to have extra time. We suggest beginning on a weekend, for example.
Odors. Some couples donÕt like smelling each other for as long as down sex requires. In this case, take showers first or keep some lavender water or rose water and spray yourself and your partner so both of you smell good.
Infections. Down sex is much safer than ordinary sex because there is much less movement of the bodies. It is possible to transmit sexual infections through one or even two standard condoms. For this reason, some couples prefer a thicker barrier between penis and vagina such as having the woman (or man) wear a thin trash bag.
Contraception. If there is a possibility of an unwanted pregnancy, use birth control even though ideally down sex should not cause any orgasms.
The man can use a standard condom or two. However, these will often fall off due to the long time it needs to stay on.
Other birth control methods. The woman can use a diaphragm, but it may fall out due to the long time of the procedure. We do not recommend birth control pills, ever!
Food wrap. A large piece of clear plastic food wrap can be placed over the penis. Use one or two layers. It is quite clean, easy to see and feel if it is in place, and gives good protection.
A shopping bag. Wash a clean plastic shopping bag from the supermarket or other store with soap and water. Place it over the penis. It is large, easy to see and feel that it is in place, and it wonÕt break easily.
A kitchen-sized garbage bag. An unusual option is to use a medium-size plastic trash bag (about 5 to 8 gallon size or about 20-30 liters). Use a new bag and make two cuts, each about 6 inches long, along the sides of the bag near the bottom of the bag, one on each side of the bag.
One of the partners slips the legs through these cuts in the bag, and then one ties the bag tightly around the waist. There is enough slack so this will function as a huge condom. It makes the procedure much safer and more modest.
The thickness of the food wrap, shopping bag or trash bag does not interfere with the healing effects of the procedure at all.
Men who have trouble keeping an erection may not like using these contraceptive devices. However, most men have the opposite problem – having orgasms.
Jolts. Occasionally, down sex may cause a different type of orgasm called a Jolt or down orgasm that begins in the head and moves downward through the body. This does not cause fluid loss in either a man or woman.
The sitting position. An older method for down sex is with the man sitting on a cushion and the woman straddling him, facing him. The vertical position makes it easier to move energy downward, it is grounding, and condoms stay on a little better.
If a couple wants to use this position, the woman will need a cushion or small bench to sit on so her entire weight will not be on the manÕs thighs. A prayer bench will sometimes work well. These are sold on the internet. It is a small stool designed so that one can sit on it with legs folded backward to do prayers.
Couples often alternate positions between being one above the other, being side by side or a sitting position.
Pillows. The side-by-side position requires a few pillows, not just one, to be comfortable, but it works well.
Other pillows. Some couples use a thin pillow between their chests for greater comfort, especially if the two are slender and bony. With memory foam mattress toppers, this is less needed.
Phones, children, televisions and other distractions. Reduce distractions as much as possible.
Is it really sex? At a purely physical level, it is. However, the motivation, feelings and effects are very different. As a result, some people donÕt regard it the same as ordinary sex. It is a healing procedure first and foremost.
Down sex is very easy and very enjoyable for women. However, please assist your partner to keep his erection and to not have an orgasm.
This is usually not difficult to do, but you must be willing to help or the procedure often wonÕt work. Ask frequently if he needs more stimulation or less. You can also learn to feel how stimulated he is.
Vaginal dryness. With little stimulation, the womanÕs vagina may become dry, especially when the session goes on for more than an hour. If this occurs, use a non-toxic lubricant, such as a little butter or cooking oil.
WHAT TO EXPECT
After about 5 minutes, both partners will begin to feel a slight tingling sensation in the entire body. This will build a little and continue for up to two and one-half hours. Then, suddenly, the tingling will stop. This completes the energetic blending that occurs with this procedure.
Retracing. Occasionally, other sensations occur that are retracing or purification reactions. One partner may become very sleepy, cold, hot, sweaty, or an ache or pain may occur in an organ or tissue of the body.
Emotional symptoms such as fear, anger, sadness or something else might also occur. An old memory may come up, or one might begin to sob softly.
Retracing is a very important concept to understand if you do down sex. For details, read Retracing and Healing Reactions.
WHO CAN DO DOWN SEX, AND HOW OFTEN?
Any male-female couple can do down sex. Old age or ill health are not barriers because it is very gentle. For example, an older man with erectile dysfunction can safely use a penis ring or other device to maintain an erection long enough to do it. We do not recommend drugs for this purpose. Such a couple can also just do down hugging, described at the end of this article.
Down sex can also be done by a woman with severe vaginal dryness because there is no movement of the penis.
Better with age. In fact, the healing effects of down sex works are greater when it is done with an older person than with a younger one. The tingling sensation is stronger, and the sessions move along faster. This is because an older person tends to be more developed, and this is helpful.
Otherwise, age does not matter and the partners can be of different ages.
Height. Down sex and down hugging work a little better and are more enjoyable if the partners are about the same height. However, this is not necessary.
Race, skin color, and nationality. It does not matter if the partners are the same race, color or nationality.
Homosexuals. The procedure will not work with two people of the same sex.
How often? Down sex can be repeated as often as you like. However, the energetic blending will only occur about three times per week.
Health status. One can do this procedure even if one or both of the participants is very ill. In fact, this procedure is superb for healing. It is one of the most powerful development science procedures.
A participant will not ÒcatchÓ the other personÕs disease, unless it is a contagious virus, perhaps, and neither participant is weakened by the procedure at all, in our experience, even if the partner is quite ill.
Cancer. For some unknown reason, the procedure is very helpful to slow down or stop the progress of cancer.
Down sex can be continued for as long as one lives. It will never stop assisting the health and development of both partners! It is quite an amazing procedure.
Comfort. This is important. Four or five memory foam mattress toppers work well. Change positions every 5-15 minutes or so, (set an alarm if you will forget), take breaks about every half 20 to 45 minutes, and keep some pillows handy, as well.
Disease. Cleanliness is always important. The couple can spray themselves with hydrogen peroxide to kill germs on the skin. Wearing a little clothing also helps to prevent spreading disease.
Healing reactions. These can occur during down sex sessions. Most are mild and end quickly. One may feel a sore throat, headache, upset stomach, or perhaps pain in a part of the body. Most reactions can be ignored and they will go away on their own. If needed, rub the reflex area of the feet and/or hands that corresponds to the area that is having the reaction, and this usually speeds up getting over the reaction.
If the penis falls out. If this occurs, the session converts to a down hugging session. This works fine, but is not quite as powerful. The penis can be reinserted and this will continue the down sex session.
Practice. For men, especially, down sex requires some practice. Usually, there will be slip-ups, which means orgasms. Do not let this discourage you.
Pregnancy. This can occur with down sex, though it is much less likely than with ordinary sex. This is because there are few, if any orgasms. Take precautions to prevent pregnancy if the woman is still menstruating.
Rape with down sex. We strongly advise against down sex on dates. The reason is that one usually does not know oneÕs partner very well and lying down and taking off clothing makes a woman extremely prone to rape.
Trauma. Anything to do with sex can cause trauma if it is not done gently and respectfully.
Down hugs are hugs in which a man and a woman hold an embrace for about two hours and 45 minutes. The same tingling occurs as with down sex.
Sessions take a little longer to complete compared to down sex. Also, down hugging is not quite as powerful as down sex, but it is still a powerful healing procedure.
With whom? Down hugging only works when it is with a man and a woman.
Clothing. The couple can be clothed or unclothed. If you are clothed, we suggest wearing light-weight clothing only and light colors only. Natural fibers are better.
Breaks. This is the same as with down sex. The couple can take breaks but must stay within about 10 feet of one another to continue the session.
Positions. Most people prefer lying down. One could do down hugging in the sitting position, as well.
Activities during down hugging sessions. These are the same as during down sex sessions.
WARNING: Hugging anyone is not that safe these days. It seems innocent, but one can contract sexually-transmitted diseases when you get a kiss, and it can be a setup for rape. Do not be ÒhuggyÓ and do not allow others to hug you unless you know the person very well.
Visualizing is a mental version of down sex or down hugging. Done correctly, the person visualizing will feel the same tingling that one feels during a down sex or down hugging session.
When to use it. Visualizing is excellent if one does not have a partner. It may also be more comfortable than having a partner present. However, it is not as powerful as doing the procedures with another person present with you.
Timing. A good time to do the visualization is when your absent partner is asleep. At this time, the person will be stationary and this helps make the visualization work better.
Two men or two women. The visualization procedure can be done between two men or two women. The person visualizing pretends to be the opposite sex of the one you are visualizing with.
Breaks. These can be taken, but stay close mentally to your absent partner to continue the session.
Shifting positions. This can be tricky with visualization because the bodies need to remain aligned properly for the procedure to work.
ACTIVITITES DURING A DOWN SEX SESSION
The Pulling Down Exercise. If one or both partners do the Pulling Down Exercise during the session, it will enhance the healing effects of the session. We strongly encourage the partners to move energy downward during down sex sessions. They can still talk, hug, kiss and relax together. It just takes a little practice.
It is quite fun to both visualize together, such as visualizing a large magnet or powerful vacuum cleaner below your feet pulling off your toes. Another fun visualization is to imagine you are lying together in a fast-flowing river that flows from your heads to your feet.
Deep breathing. This is helpful for development and for improving health. We suggest a three-part breath:
1. First one breathes into the stomach, which should rise up if one is lying on oneÕs back.
2. Then one breathes into the ribs, and the chest should expand outward to each side.
3. Then one breathes into the upper chest, which should rise up and out as one inhales.
Each of the three parts can be done to a count of about 3 seconds. Then hold the breath for about 2 seconds and then exhale.
The best way is for the couple to breathe together, inhaling and exhaling at the same time. However, you can alternate and this is more comfortable.
The red heat lamp. A red heat lamp or two can be positioned shining on the legs or elsewhere during down sex. This is needed for fastest development. Note that wearing clothing blocks the infrared energy from the lamp.
Listening to tapes or CDs. This is relaxing. Listening to the right material, such as articles on this website, will speed up development and healing. Computers can be programmed easily to speak articles to you out loud.
Foot and hand reflexology. The partners can do some hand and other reflexology on each other, such as rubbing the ears and the backs. Many couples really enjoy this and it enhances the healing effect of the sessions quite a lot.
It is also excellent to do during breaks. When combined with the pulling down exercise, this becomes a very potent healing, detoxification and development procedure. For details, read Reflexology.
The spinal twists. These are excellent to do during breaks, and some twists can be done during sessions. They can also enhance the sessions greatly! For details, read The Spinal Twists.
We have heard from a number of clients that practicing down sex or down hugging is excellent for marriages. In fact, it gives a new meaning to marriage.
Marriage becomes not only an arrangement for raising children and having a companion. It also becomes a very powerful healing and development asset. We recommend down sex or down hugging for all married couples.
Down sex is fun, it is a way to get to know another person, and it is definitely safer than ordinary sex. However, lying down and removing clothing always increases the risk of rape, so we donÕt recommend it on dates.
HEALING SEXUAL TRAUMAS
Down sex is fabulous for anyone who has experienced rape. In fact, it is a specific antidote for rape. Women and men report that it feels loving, and it is enjoyable, it is safe, and it helps them retrace and clear the trauma of rape.
It is psychodrama. Down sex and down hugging involve psychodrama. This means that one is placed in a situation that is somewhat similar to a trauma situation from the past except that the setting and situation are happy and fun. This helps enormously to process old traumas. For details, read Healing Rape, Rape and Psychodrama.
In combination with a regular development program, down sex or down hugging may be very helpful for those with gender dysphoria.