by Lawrence Wilson, MD
© August 2012, The Center For Development
There is a life energy or adaptive energy that gives us life. It has been given many names such as vital force, life force, chi, qi and others. Each person is born with a certain amount, and in most cases it slowly diminishes, eventually causing death of the body.
Definition. Each person is supposed to live off his or her own life energy, happily and independently. However, many, if not most people give away some of their energy to others. This is fine if you are in control of the situation. However, often one is not in control, and others essentially manipulate your energy field in certain ways to extract energy in a stealth manner. This is the process called energetic vampirism.
How to vampirize another. It is often easy to basically steal other people’s energy, often without them even knowing it. They might even enjoy the process. The two main ways it is done are by 1) threatening or harming another, or 2) flattering and spoiling another. In other words, one can take it from another through intimidation and violence, or by flattery and seduction. In both cases, a person is thrown out of balance, and this is what causes the person to give up some life energy.
Speaking more technically, what occurs is that the normal flow of the energy down the body from the head to the feet is interrupted, and instead some of the energy flows out to others, or upwards to others. This is related to the meaning of the word upset. One steals energy from another by upsetting the other’s energy field, literally. To learn more about the natural flow of subtle energy on the body and how to enhance it, read Down Energy And Healing on this website.
When subtle energy flows sideways or upwards to some degree, this spins the energy centers or chakras backwards or somewhat abnormally in other ways. This is also related to the loss of energy that can occur to another person.
Many people experience vampirism throughout their lives. Parents do it to their children, teachers do it to their students, lovers and spouses do it to each other, and so on. In other words, the phenomenon occurs commonly. However, it is rarely discussed and hence the need for this article.
HOW TO TELL IF SOMEONE IS ATTEMPTING TO VAMPIRIZE YOU
Among the simple signs are any odd and usually disagreeable or eccentric behavior that obviously or subtly upsets you. Most, if not all “drama” that one sees in politics, medicine, parenting, personal relationships, child behavior and everywhere else can be related to this.
Some are very good at it and easily upset people around them to gain energy from them in some way. An experienced vampire can shift from one behavior to another in seconds, to see which method of upsetting others works best in a particular situation. He or she may shout, cry, become too sweet, or argue, depending on what is needed at the moment to extract energy from vulnerable and often gullible people, which is most people.
Sometimes vampirizing occurs due to the outlandish way a person dresses, “just for effect”. This can be a teenage girl with her bra straps showing, or any possible costume designed to draw your attention and upset you just a little bit.
Non-verbal behaviors can be used as well to vampirize. A simple one is just to tense the body or maintain an unusual or sexy or stooped posture. This can induce tensions in the bodies of others that cause them to give up this life energy. That is how easy it is.
Words can be used to upset people easily. Most are lies or half truths, although even the truth can be used to shock people, flatter people, and seduce them in various ways that cause subtle upset. Parents may praise a child too much, or give him everything he wants. Even if this is done with good intent, it is still upsetting to a child and he or she will give up a certain amount of energy to the person who says it.
Men flatter and seduce women to upset them enough that they will go out with them and have sex with them. Women, meanwhile, seduce men all the time with their scanty clothing, perfumes, tight clothing, postures, gestures like playing with their hair, staring at men or other ways. Both men and women upset each other with words of praise and love, even when they don’t mean it, to actually steal energy from those of the opposite sex.
In fact, the sexual arena is an important one in which vampirism occurs. It is discussed later in more detail.
Teachers sometimes praise students too much in order to get the student to do what the teacher wants. Even just smiling at people too much or inappropriately is upsetting to others and can cause them to give up some energy to you.
The point is that one can upset another not only with threats and intimidation, but with too much flattery, praise or adulation. Such behaviors are really lies and setups to get the other to do something that the other would not otherwise do. This is at the heart of how vampires extract energy from others.
Other signs that someone is vampirizing you is a feeling of being tired, worn out or “drained” after being around certain people. Sometimes you may just feel disoriented, out of sorts or “shifted” in some way by another person’s energy. These are good indicators that you have been thrown off your center by another and have thus given up some energy to him or her.
ORIGINS OF VAMPIRISM
Some people appear to know or learn about vampirizing others very early in life. Many others are “trained” by their parents or other adults to become vampire victims or even little vampires. The way the conditioning or training occurs is that a parent or perhaps a teacher tries to vampirize or steal energy from the young child. The child either goes along and soon becomes a good little victim, or the child figures out what is going on and turns around and becomes a little vampire himself or herself.
This parallels the mythical vampire legend that once one is "bitten" by a vampire, one often turns around and becomes a vampire oneself. It is as though one develops a bizarre appetite for the energy of other people when one becomes separated or alienated from one’s own source of this natural energy due to a trauma.
Trauma often creates vampires and victims. Traumas of all kinds, particularly sexual molestation and rape, but other types as well such as beatings and humiliations, often turns people into vampires and vampire victims.
The converse is also true. As one heals old traumas, often one no longer feels the need to vampirize, and one may also wake up and stop giving one’s energy away to others.
It is as though trauma separates a person from God or from the almighty source of energy with which we are all supposed to be connected. One can say that trauma “turns” a person away from God and turns the person more into an angry animal that must live by a “dog eat dog” philosophy. Someone once described the vampire philosophy to me in a humorous way as “steal energy from others before they steal energy from you”.
Spiritual development aspects. Interestingly, less highly developed people tend to be vampires more easily. More highly developed people are more giving and tend to become victims of vampires until they learn to see the vampire behaviors, forgive them and walk away from them, rather than hang around and give up energy to those who are acting this way.
Women often better vampires than men. According to Roy Masters and some other authorities on this subject, women vampirize others more than men. This may be because women tend to have a lower energy level than men, in general, or for other subtle reasons. This is a rather complex subject. For more on this interesting subject, read The Sexual Order on this site.
Many men are vampires, however. In some cases, their energy was drained earlier in life by their mothers. They become vampires in an attempt to regain their lost energy. This causes power struggles and other problems in relationships.
Mutual vampirism. It is possible, especially in some sexual and other situations, for two people to each be part vampire and part giver of energy. That is, each steals some energy from the other. This could be called a type of co-dependent relationship that is not healthy, even if both participants appear to be enjoying it.
In a sexual scenario, the woman may be weakening her husband by taking more of his sexual fluid. He may be using his wife for sexual pleasure without really loving her. Many other examples could be cited in which both people in a relationship of some kind may upset the other, taking a little energy from the other.
Love and vampirism. In one sense, love and vampirizing are the exact opposites. Loving means giving forth an energy of God that you share with others. Vampirizing means taking energy from others, even when it is done in the name of “love”, as is sometimes the case.
This is a selfish kind of love in which the person extracting the energy means he or she loves what he or she gets from the other person. Too often, ladies and gentlemen, this is what a person means when he says he “loves you”. So beware.
Sometimes, however, those who give up energy think they “love” their vampire. This is usually a result of hypnosis or brainwashing. The giver has become convinced that to give up energy to another is holy, special or makes him or her a good person. Sometimes the feeling of giving up energy, which is a tired feeling, is misperceived as loving, when in fact this is never the case. Once again, giving energy to another voluntarily is fine. However, having another person steal some energy by upsetting you to get it is not healthy at all.
Secondary gain for givers. There can be secondary gain for the giver. This means that the giver of energy is getting something that keeps him or her giving away more energy. He or she may feel “needed”, or safe, or more loving, or better than the jerky vampire, or something else. This is important to watch in yourself if you are the type that tends to give energy to others. Why do you do it? Ask this question often and you will get the answer, so you can stop doing it.
CONSEQUENCES OF VAMPIRISM
Vampirism is a major cause of many types of problems in individuals, families and society. It can cause depression, anger, illness, family discord, relationship difficulties, sibling rivalry, and more.
In the larger society, some political systems are set up as vampire-victim or oppressor-oppressed systems. These are the dictatorships, monarchies, communist nations, military governments, radical theocracies. It is also true to some degree in all liberal and all socialist nations such as the nations of Canada and those in Western Europe.
Meanwhile, societies with more individual rights, capitalism and freedom have less institutional vampirism. The more each individual is given control and responsibility for his own life, the less vampirism occurs.
Entities and vampirism. When a person gives up energy in a vampire situation, he or she often picks up what are called entities or dicarnate souls. This is almost universally true. It is as though the energy that the person gives up opens the person to entity attachment. This just causes more illness, depression and other problems for the person. For more on this curious subject, read Entity Attachment And Release on this site.
VAMPIRISM AND HAIR MINERAL ANALYSIS
Vampirism is common, and occurs to some degree with all types of hair analysis patterns. However, extreme energy vampires often have one of the following hair mineral patterns:
1. An adult chart with a fast oxidation rate and an Na/K ratio greater than about 3. More often, it is a woman, although it can be a man.
2. An adult chart with a four highs pattern, a fast or fast mixed oxidation rate, and elevated levels of iron, manganese and aluminum. The Na/K ratio may be low or high.
3. Double vampire pattern: An adult chart with a fast oxidation rate, an Na/K ratio greater than about 3 and a calcium/magnesium ratio greater than about 9.5. This may be a more extreme case of energy vampirism.
One who gives energy to a vampire. This pattern is a slow oxidation rate with a sodium level of 1 mg% and a potassium level of 1 mg% or lower. Another pattern is a very low Na/K ratio and perhaps a deep bowl pattern, usually in a slow oxidizer.
I believe that those who are neither vampires nor victims tend to have a more balanced oxidation rate on hair mineral analyses provided they are physically healthy and well-nourished.
VAMPIRISM AS A TYPE OF CO-DEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP
Co-dependent relationships are a type of dysfunctional relationship in which the partners do not actually help each other grow in a spiritual direction. While this is a vague definition, it will suffice here. Vampirism can fit into this definition, as it is some kind of interaction between two or more people that does not serve the highest interest of either, really.
Co-dependent relationships are often the result of trauma, and this is the case with vampirism as well. To read more about this, read Co-dependent Relationships on this site.
ADDICTIONS AND VAMPIRISM
Vampirism is associated with addictions. Addictions may be defined as unhealthy attachments to habits and behaviors that provide temporary energy or a temporary “high”. In fact, vampirism itself could be described as a type of addiction or craving for the vital energy of other people.
Vampires may be attracted to addictive substances because they are dependent upon outside sources of energy, and some addictive substances such as cigarettes, cocaine and others may provide some temporary energy for them.
Vampire victims may be attracted to some addictive substances and habits because all are depleted of natural energy and may crave substances or habits that provide temporary relief from their anger and depression, or provide them, too, with some “energy”.
Both vampires and their victims may also feel very anxious at times without understanding the reasons. Depressing addictive substances like sleeping pills or alcohol may provide temporary relief. For more on addictions, read Addiction on this website.
SENSUAL AND SEXUAL ASPECTS OF VAMPIRISM
Touching and vampirism. Any time two people touch, or there is any close physical contact, the energy exchanges I am calling vampirism can occur a little more easily. Just beware of this fact. Examples of this are during a massage, during body work, while someone is instructing you in learning a sport or a dance or an exercise or yoga routine, or other such situations.
In fact, any time you “rub elbows” with others you become more easy prey for vampires, so be careful with any situation in which you are in close contact with others.
Sex and vampirism. Powerful energy exchanges occur between people during sexual encounters. Even just spending time around those of the opposite sex can cause vampire-like energy exchanges, so powerful is this force. Several types of vampirism are common with sex.
1. Basic energetic vampirism during sex. This happens often during sex, and even more so during a rape. One of the partners causes the chakras of the other person to spin backwards. When this occurs, the person always gives up some etheric energy to the other partner. Some people who are very sensitive can feel this. There are techniques for doing this that some men and women learn and do well, either consciously or unconsciously.
2. Sexual fluid vampirism. Some women, usually, crave a substance found in the male seminal fluid. This is not uncommon. The fluid somehow nourishes her, giving her more energy and perhaps taking away feelings of depression, anxiety or loneliness.
If the situation is mild, it does not disrupt a man-woman sexual relationship or marriage too much. The woman will want to have sex without a condom so she can absorb the man’s sexual fluid.
However, some women crave the fluid so much that they want to have sex every day or two, or even more often. This weakens the man very much, and will shorten his life if he goes along, which many do, at least for a while.
The latter amounts to a type of vampirism that has little, if anything, to do with love or caring. It is really just a way some women “use” men to obtain some chemical substance. The women do not even necessarily enjoy the sex, but merely want the sexual fluid.
The answer for this is that the men must not allow ejaculation more than once a week, and less as a man ages. Women (or men) with sexual fluid craving must also limit sexual intercourse to once a week or less. Also, those with the craving must eat more red meat such as lamb, beef or perhaps some wild game several times a week or even more for a while. Often, those with the craving do not like red meat. However, they seem to need some nutrient that is in red meats in order to overcome the sexual fluid craving
Rarely, a man will crave and be addicted to female sexual fluid, but this is less common. For more on this general topic, read Sexual Fluid Craving on this site.
3. Prostitution, abuse and use of another sexually for money and power. Prostitutes may be victims, whose careers start with early childhood sexual abuse or rape as a young girl or teenager. After the abuse, the person is somehow addicted to sex and wants more of it, for reasons she does not understand.
While some become prostitute victims, others turn the tables and use men for money or power. They may marry rich men and then divorce them to obtain money, or they may overpower men in other ways using their sexual charms. In fact, this is not uncommon. While it may seem like the women are the victims of vampirism, it is not always so simple. The men may be giving up money, power, prestige and sexual fluid to the woman.
4. Giving others sexually transmitted diseases, and harming another during sex by going too long, being too rough, or in some other way. These may all be considered subtle ways that men and women can vampirize each other during sex.
5. Sexual distraction and use of sexual energy or desire to sell products or services, and other things. Most people know that sexual images, scantily clad bodies, sexual innuendo or even sexual jokes, can be used to distract and persuade people to buy everything from soap to cars. This, too, is a mild form of vampirism.
Many attractive young women, for example, deeply enjoy going around in short shorts and a sleeveless, tight blouse (or less) because it distracts the boys and turns their heads. This is very unsafe, by the way, because it angers some men who will then rape the young woman. However, young attractive women must watch the tendency to want to extract a little “juice” from men by just walking around looking sexy.
The opposite also occurs to some degree. Some men know how to look at, speak with, stare and comment upon women walking down the street in such a way that the women lose a little energy. Sometimes it is flattery, or it might be a nasty comment like calling her a bitch or a whore. Some men are very good at upsetting women in this way.
In all of these cases, one person gains energy and the other gives up some energy, which is why it is a vampire-like exchange of energy. Please beware of this problem. If a couple is aware of it, they may be able to change it. However, if it remains a mystery, hidden or secret, it can often lead to depression, illness, fighting about sex, affairs, divorce and even death of the partner who is being used in a vampire-like way.
Both men and women should notice if they feel very drained after sex, for example, or just after being around certain people of the opposite sex. Some depletion is normal after sex, especially for men. But if it is extreme, a problem of this nature may be occurring
Energetic vampires are everywhere, so avoiding them is nearly impossible. Also, protecting yourself from them so you don’t lose energy around them is also very difficult, so the best advice is always to avoid them. Here are steps anyone can take to minimize the problem, and perhaps save your life.
1. Enhance your general awareness. You are doing this to some degree by reading this article. One ALWAYS needs to be aware of the possibility of vampirism, even around the nicest, gentlest people. Recall that the vampire phenomenon is pervasive in families, personal relationships, schools, business, politics and elsewhere.
Watch your attitudes and listen to the attitudes of others. Do they encourage you to be independent and think for yourself, or do they somehow encourage dependency, discourage you, intimidate, cajole, threaten, flatter or seduce? Often these latter approaches are really an effort to get a response from you – along with your energy.
Keep in mind the thought that there are no victims. Each is sovereign and responsible for himself or herself. This way you will be more alert to those who think otherwise, including those who believe they are special and can ‘feed’ on you.
Other methods to raise your awareness are discussed below, such as daily practice of the Roy Masters mental exercise, and even such things as going to church regularly, regular prayer and others.
2. Avoidance. Avoiding possible vampire situations is always wise. Try to avoid any situation in which you notice that your energy is lowered. It could be certain locations or certain activities, and it almost always involves other people.
To practice avoidance, you may have to learn how to be alone with yourself happily. Insist on your personal space, your sanity zone. Be mindful of who goes in and out of your home, whom you allow to visit, and especially whom you might allow to stay overnight. Maintaining a pure, quiet, private personal space is very important. If others don’t like it, that is their problem. Be careful with sex and avoid loose sex in all cases, as this almost assures that you will come into close contact with vampires, who can seem like the most wonderful, beautiful people imaginable.
3. Follow a nutritional balancing program. This really means you will maintain high standards of integrity in your life, and you will restore your body to a high level of health. The effect is that a vampire situation, should it arise, will seem much less compatible with your lifestyle and you will notice it sooner and get away more easily for this reason.
It will also help undo traumas of all kinds which can predispose one to getting into vampire-like relationships.
You will also have more energy with which to oppose or get away from a vampire situation. Many people stay in vampire relationships or other situations because they are so tired, or their impaired body chemistry is reducing their level of awareness, will, courage and drive. For more on this, read Introduction To Nutritional Balancing and other articles on this subject on this site.
4. Do the Roy Masters mental exercise with my modification each and every day. This is like the anti-vampire. It will slowly help connect you, or reconnect you, with your own source of energy or God, if you prefer to call it this. This is critical in the long run to end the cycle of vampire and victim.
The trick is to move energy down the front of your body quite forcefully all of the time. This takes some practice and is not easy, at first, for most people. This includes learning to do it during social encounters and during all sexual intercourse and even foreplay.
This will not only undo some traumas. It is also a safety mechanism for both men and women, because if the energy is moving correctly, one is more conscious, less scared or excited, and therefore able to make more rational decisions.
The observation exercise slowly teaches detachment, witnessing and brings in the etheric energy which replaces the need to please people or for that matter to gain any energy from other people. You become more independent and nourished from within. Click here for more details about the Meditation Exercise For Healing. Note that I have recorded a new (2010) version of this practice on a compact disc and available free at the top of the article above.
It may also help to read Roy Masters books, especially the one about sex. He understands vampirism well and writes about it in graphic terms, which are not easy to hear for many people.
5. Be extremely careful about getting involved with others in business, churches, friendships and especially intimate relationships. Get to know people well, test them over time, and never trust first impressions. This is critical to avoid being sucked into a vampire situation. Women are more likely to be prey, although men can certainly become vampire victims as well.
6. Take care to strictly avoid people or places that induce fear, stray sexual feelings, or other unhealthy things. This is sometimes difficult to do, because you may be completely unaware when a problem exists. With some reflection and meditation, however, most people begin to feel when they are afraid, sexually excited in an unhealthy way, upset, angry or otherwise out of balance.
Often, however, one can be tempted to go to certain parties or bars, or engage in other activities like swimming or other sports where you are less than fully clothed, or even go for certain natural therapies that expose you in ways, both physically, emotionally, mentally or otherwise, that can give vampires a way in to your energy field. New age methods are often the worst such as massage, body work and other things where bodies touch and may be unclothed to some degree, at least.
You must protect yourself as you would protect a newborn baby, at least for a while. Women, especially, should avoid all tight clothing, for instance, or any sexy clothing. This is somewhat less critical for men, but absolutely critical for women. It can protect women both from becoming vampires and from becoming their victims.
Some women love to flirt – innocently, they think. It just feels good, they say. Stop it. Also try to stop fantasizing when you see a handsome man. If you are in a relationship with a man, or if you have an honest friend, ask that the person stop you if he or she notices you are flirting in any way, shape or form. Flirting is never okay outside of your primary marriage or committed relationship and always ruins it.
In general, women should keep long hair tied up in a bun and stay far away from all makeup, smelly oils and deodorants and other sexual stimulants. They affect her, and those around her, and are designed to do so. Also, avoid staring or even looking too much at men of any type or age for any reason whatsoever. Even if it is totally innocent, it is easily mistaken by some men for a flirt and an invitation. This is critical.
For men, the exact same rules apply. It means to learn not to stare at women’s private parts or breasts, ever. It also means not to fantasize about women, about touching them or having sex with them, of course. Learn to watch your mind and catch yourself when you do this, which is somewhat natural for men. If you are in a relationship with a woman, ask her to stop you if you are doing it. Women are often very aware when a partner has taken his attention off of her and on to other women. Often the attractive ladies have learned how to vampirize men, so these simple rules will help a man not only avoid becoming a vampire, but also avoid becoming a victim of a vampire, as well.
7. Work on clearing your early life traumas. Vampirizing often occurs due to your hidden early life traumas. It is often all unconscious, so never assume you are “done with your traumas”. By the way, we all have them. No one is without traumas, but some have worked on them more than others. Once again, being in a healthy male-female relationships, or even having a really honest friend of the same sex that you go places with, is very helpful to alert you to behaviors that are really results of traumas, though you may not associate the two.
The simplest and deepest way to clear traumas at their base is with a complete nutritional balancing program. This method is slow, but very, very good. Psychotherapy, hypnotherapy and other methods may help, but do not often work as deeply as a properly designed nutritional balancing program. This is because today the nutritional aspect of trauma release is so important for most people. The bodies are so weak and out of balance that unless you address this problem head on and repeatedly for some years, it is difficult to really move beyond the superficial layers of your traumas. This is a fact today, whether or not you believe it.
8. Do not willingly give up your energy, your rights, and your freedom to others for any reason. Be wary of anyone who says you must sacrifice your rights, your sovereignty or your freedom for any reason. This is often a trick. Benjamin Franklin once said “those who give up their freedom for security will end up with neither freedom or security.”
WHAT TO DO IF YOU REALIZE YOU ARE A VAMPIRE
Vampires need to spend time alone in order to develop their own center and to be able to tune into their own energy instead of taking that of others. However, they don’t usually like this one bit. So force yourself to spend time by yourself and doing things by yourself.
Second, do the Roy Masters observation exercise each and every day. This will also help you tune in to your own energy, so you will need that of others less and less until you realize you really don’t want others’ energy as it is not pure at all.
Third, make a habit of catching yourself each time you find yourself saying or doing things that you have realized are designed to upset another, “get a rise out of someone”, or otherwise vampirize others in some way. This will be a slow process of gaining self-awareness of how, when, why you act the way you do. Meditating and taking time alone are essential for this process to build and develop. Do not be upset as you see behaviors and attitudes that are not very healthy or loving come up for you during meditation or at any other time. Just let them all go.
Keep working on your health with nutritional balancing science, not with symptomatic and other types of healing programs. Nutritional balancing will help you let go of very deep levels of imbalance in the body and mind, while the other methods, especially any that are focused on symptoms, will not heal you nearly as deeply.
Practice love for all beings. This is complex, as it does not mean to allow others to take advantage of you. However, it is about learning to radiate your own love, rather than to seek to gain something, absorb energy, use others or beat others, or overcome them in subtle ways.
Also, as with all problems in life, pray daily for guidance and help.
Visualization during sex. To get rid of a vampire habit during sex, always visualize energy moving downward between you and your partner. Never visualize moving energy up the front of your partner’s body, as this is backwards and a cause for vampire-like energy exchange. You may visualize it moving up the partner’s back, but always down the front of both bodies.
IS VAMPIRISM TO BE AVOIDED AT ALL COSTS?
At times, some vampirism can be tolerated if other aspects of a relationship are working and beneficial. For example, it may be worth staying at a job with a vampire boss if one wishes to learn a particular business or skill. One may choose to stay in school in order to obtain a diploma even if conditions are not ideal. In these instances, protecting oneself as described above may allow one to stay around a vampire without too much damage, although this depends on the severity of the vampire situation.
There is never a reason to continue to act as a vampire. The alternative is to turn to a more spiritual source of energy. Most vampires do not do this due to laziness and unconsciousness.
Vampirism is unfortunately rampant in all human societies. It is less, by the way, in America than in any other nation. This has to do with the founding principles of our country – the sovereignty of each individual – and the right of each individual to the pursuit of happiness, provided the rights of others are respected. The free market, capitalist society with individual rights, not group rights, is the way out of vampirism on a societal level, although I know that some people will not agree.
It is wise to become aware of vampirism, but not to fear it. Avoid it when you can and to teach others about it as well.