DOES GOD HATE ME?
By Dr. Lawrence Wilson
© November 2019, L.D. Wilson Consultants, Inc.
All information in this article is only the opinion of the author and for educational purposes only. It is not for the diagnosis, treatment, prescription or cure of any disease or health condition.
A fairly common belief among the general public is the false belief that God must hate them for something they did, or failed to do. This belief can be quite strong and deeply held.
As a result, these individuals feel condemned and cannot forgive either themselves or others. This belief may be held consciously, or it may be semi-conscious or unconsciously held. In all cases, however, it causes a person to be stuck with guilt, fear, and other negative emotions.
WHAT TO DO
1. Realize that God does not hate anyone. In fact, the opposite is true. God is the same as the Creator. The Bible states that after God created the earth, including all the animals and human beings, He said “And it was good”. He did not say “I hate some people” or “It is awful”.
Hatred is never an attribute of God. It does not matter what you did or did not do. God is loving and merciful at all times.
So the belief that God must hate you is completely wrong. Unfortunately, some people have been taught this lie by parents, teachers or others. However, it is simply incorrect.
2. In fact, all people have been forgiven of all their faults and sins. This is a teaching in the Hebrew and the Christian religions, although it is often not stressed enough. No one is condemned by God ever. This is the truth.
3. Try using a simple affirmation. Say often every day “I am loved, I am loving, I am lovable forever”. This may sound corny and lying, but it is the truth at the deepest level.
4. Christians have a much easier time letting go of the false belief that God hates them. The reason is they believe that Jesus suffered for their sins and took on the sins of the world. As a result, we are forgiven. Please consider this perspective, although not everyone can accept it. However, it works to relieve the terrible anxiety some people feel due to their false belief that God hates them.
5. Consider the teachings discussed in the book, The Real Self. This is an ancient and powerful teaching and includes:
- All events are neutral. We give events meaning by our judgments of them, but of themselves they are neutral.
- God does not judge. We judge ourselves, and we can forgive ourselves for this error at any time, but God does not judge.
- We don’t know all the reasons why events occur, and we never will know all the reasons. Therefore, do not judge events. Let them all go and move on, allowing God to handle the situation properly.
THE EFFECT OF A DEVELOPMENT PROGRAM
A person may live with the false belief that God hates them for years without it causing an obvious problem. However, when one begins a development program, negative feelings of self-loathing may well up as part of an emotional retracing.
This can be very upsetting. Even more upsetting is that if one eats a lot of cooked vegetables, or takes the recommended supplements, or does the detoxification procedures, the feelings may initially become even more intense.
When this occurs, some people will quit their development program. This is unfortunate and really does not solve the problem. It just keeps it all inside, which usually causes depression, illness, and an early death.
To handle this type of ‘purification reaction’, one may need to adjust the program, express one’s feelings, or perhaps discuss them with a counselor. We find that if one works with us on the program, and has the proper intent and understanding, and lots of self-love, one can get through the purification reaction. For details, read Retracing and Trauma Retracing.