by Dr. Lawrence Wilson

© October 2017, L.D. Wilson Consultants, Inc. 




            This is an advanced relationship article, and an important one about how most men and women tend to interact energetically.  By understanding this article, you may improve your relationships with those of the opposite sex, particularly with marriage partners or any intimate partnerships.

To understand this article, one needs to know there are seven physical energy centers of a human being.  There are also seven energy centers that are on the etheric body.  The latter is an energy field around all human beings.

            In general, the energy centers on a man spin in the opposite in-and-out direction from those of a woman.  This gives rise to some sexual and other common traits of men and women.  Understanding this and using the information to advantage is the subject of this article.  Let us begin by discussing the lower seven or physical energy centers.




            While not discussed often in Western scientific literature, every physical body has a series of energetic centers on and off of the physical body.  This is not “occult” or devilish, but simply science that Western science has not learned as much about because they are not visible to the naked eye or with a standard microscope.

They appear as funnel-shaped vortices of energy along the midline of the body, with the first being lowest on the body in the area of the anal opening.  Their exact locations and much more information about them is in a separate article entitled The Energy Centers or Chakras.


Men’s energy centers that spin outwards.  In many men the 1st, 3rd, 5th and 7th centers spin outward.  This helps men to connect to the earth and to the heavens.  The basic activity of these energy centers can be summarized as:

1 = grounding

3 = will or ego

5 = expression

7 = connecting with God. 


The pole.  The activity of the first and seventh centers may be seen as the two ends of a vertical pole.  The first center sends energy downward to the earth, and the 7th sends energy straight upward, more or less.  These act like anchors to keep men balanced, centered and grounded in certain ways that are not as easy for women, although they can do the same thing if they develop.

As a result, good men have the quality of a sturdy, steady pole.  It stands tall, stands up for what is right, protects women and children, and can be “climbed upon” by a woman, or by anyone, for that matter.

            Man’s other two outward-spinning chakras or centers are the 3rd and 5th.  These have to do with power and control (the 3rd) and true expression (the 5th).  These are also qualities of mature men who are not afraid, and not hesitant to speak out when needed. 

To summarize, mature men are steady, somewhat inflexible (which is good), sturdy, steadfast, uncompromising on principle, willing to express themselves, and possess some personal power, which is not exactly the same as having big muscles or a lot of money.  It is more about who they are and what they believe in.

This energetic configuration gives rise to the phrase that “good men are like poles”.   They are sturdy, rooted in the ground, or grounded, and steady because they are also rooted in the heavens above.

            Sadly, there are not enough of these kind of men around.  However, the number is growing, and following a properly designed nutritional balancing program practically guarantees that a man will become more like this.

            At the same time, a man’s 2nd, 4th and 6th energy centers often spin inward.  As a result, men tend to be a little weaker in these areas of life, which are explained below. 




            Women’s energy centers that spin outward.  In mature women over the age of about 30, the 2nd, 4th, and 6th energy centers spin outward. (2 = close relationships, 4 = will to love and connect with others, and 6 = connecting with people at higher levels (sometimes called intuition).           Let us examine these in more detail.

The second energy center.  This has to do with intimate, one-on-one relationships.  Women tend to connect deeply with sexual partners.  This does not always serve them if the relationship is not good, or if it is not a deeply committed relationship.  It also causes severe problems when rape occurs.  Men do not connect as deeply as women do during sexual relations.

In part, for this reason, we strongly urge all women to avoid having boyfriends.  This arrangement does not work well for women.  Sex tends to attach a woman to a man, and while it is excellent to attach to a good husband, it is not healthy to attach to someone you are not married to and when there is little commitment.  This always hurts women, much more than it harms the man.

So if a man does not want to marry you, and just wants sex, tell him to find himself a whore.  You find a better man, and they are out there.

            The fourth center.  One may call this the social energy center.  While the second energy center has to do with one-on-one or intimate relationships, the fourth center has to do with friends, colleagues, work relationships and other social relationships.  This is another area of great interest to many women, and less so for men.

              Women today have deep problems with this center because it is not safe for women to be too much “out in the world”, in many cases.  They call it “the man’s world” because the social world is often the realm of men.  This is a dilemma for all women, at one time or another.

Being married is helpful, because a man and his wife can more safely be “out and about” rather than a woman being in the social world all alone.  Several women can also go out together, but this is still not nearly as safe as being with one’s husband or a male friend. 

            The sixth center.  This is a connecting center, once again.  But it has to do with connecting at a “head” level, not a heart level or a sexual level.

Many mature women are very intuitive and understand life very deeply.  This is an active sixth center.  They may accuse men of being somewhat “dense” or “slow” in these areas because it is not men’s strength area. 

A strong sixth center may also be one reason why girls are out-performing boys in school, these days, and actually their rate of college graduation is exceeding that of men.  So these are the areas in which women tend to have more interest.  Men and women can complement each other well, for this reason.

The sexual order.  Just because women are good at figuring out people mentally does not mean they make better decisions than men.  This is very important for marriages. 

The reason they do not do so, in general, is that women are much more fearful than men, afraid to stand out, and often more influenced by superficial characteristics than men.  For details about this controversial idea, read The Sexual Order.

            At the same time, women lack the outward-moving 1st and 7th energy center that men have, so women, especially today, tend to be less grounded, less centered and less easily connected to the Creator.  This is not a judgment, but just an energetic truth.  They are also generally weaker in the 3rd center, which has to do with power and control, and in the 5th center, which has to do with expression in the world.




This also means that a man can be helped by a woman in his weaker areas such as intimacy, social life and sometimes intuition or mental understanding.  Meanwhile, a man, especially in a marriage, can assist a woman in her in her weaker areas, which include grounding and centering (1st), a sense of power (3rd), expression in the world (5th) and a close connection with the Creator (7th).




Because of men’s energetic configuration, it is said that men are more like poles and women are climbers, meaning that smart women latch on to a man and obtain his qualities, and thereby progress very quickly.

This is a level of relating to the opposite sex that is grounded in energetics and often works well.  There is more to this energetic interaction, however, that involves another set of energy centers.




            A few people on earth become sufficiently developed so that their 8th through the 14th energy centers become active. These energy centers are not found on the physical body.  Instead, they are located above the head. 

In order for the energy centers 8-14 to appear, one must have a somewhat developed etheric energy field or body.  The etheric energy field is an electrical field that appears around a person’s body as one develops.  One must reach Stage 10 fo development, more or less, for this to occur.  For details about the etheric energy field, read The Aura. 

Children, as a rule, do not have much of an etheric body.  It develops starting as early as age 18 or so, but often not until age 30.  So this section does not apply to children or even to teenagers.


Location of the upper seven centers.  As the etheric body grows to a size of about 1 mile or two kilometers, centers 8-14 appear in a straight line upward above the head of the physical body.  They extend up to about a mile over one’s head.




The 8th center.  This corresponds to the first energy center to a degree.  However, it is not about physical life, but about mental life.  It is a new beginning and concerned with mental survival, mental grounding, and basic mental fitness.

  The 8th in most people is not well-developed.  This means they do not think very well and their life is mainly physical and not mental.  There are exceptions, but the number of people with a developed 8th center is very small on earth, perhaps 1 million or less.  These are mostly older people because the etheric body only develops after age 30 in most people.

Keyword: Mentally grounded and clear.


The 9th center.  This corresponds to the second center, to a degree.  It has to do with emotion, but in this case it is mentally driven and mentally oriented.  Once again, few on earth have this ability.  These are people who feel deeply about a cause or subject.

Keyword: Feeling strongly at a mental level.


The 10th center.  This corresponds to the third center, to a degree.  It has to do with power and control on a mental level.

Keyword: Mental control.


 The 11th center.  This corresponds to the fourth center, to a degree.  It has to do with a more social or larger attitude about things mentally.

For example, a person with a well-developed 11th center is very concerned with the well-being of millions of other people, not just his or her own.  This has nothing to do with politics, but rather concern for others.

Keyword: Social concern.


The 12th center.  This corresponds to the fifth center, to a degree.  It has to do with mental expression. 

Mental expression is different than physical expression, with which the fifth center is concerned.  For example, those with a developed 12th center often become authors, orators, deep thinkers, or work in other mentally-focused expressive or creative arts.

Keyword: Mental expression.


The 13th center.  This corresponds to the 6th center, to a degree.  It has to do with mental extension or wisdom.

Keyword: Wisdom.


The 14th center.  This corresponds to the 7th center, to a degree.  It has to do with a culmination mentally of the previous 6 centers.

For example, it has to do with a healthy and complete mental ability to deal with the world. Unlike the 7th center, however, the 14th does not open upward like a funnel with the open end upward.  Instead, it opens all around, so it is shaped like a sphere.  This indicates that it gives a person an all-around mental outlook that is quite wonderful.

 Keyword.  Mental integration.




Men’s upper seven centers.  In men who are sufficiently developed, the energy centers 9, 11, and 13 spin outwards.  In women, the energy centers 8, 10, 12 and 14 normally spin outward.

Men’s upper center strengths. In men who are sufficiently developed, the 9th energy center has to do feeling things mentally in a strong way.

The 11th center has to do with caring for others in a mental way.

The 13th center has to do with extending one’s mental focus outward to the universe in various ways, and becoming wise and knowing.


            Women’s upper center strengths.  In women who are sufficiently developed, the 8th center has to do with a well-grounded and well-established mental focus.

The 10th center has to do with mental power and control.  It is a very important trait.  Aberrant forms of this include witchcraft and voodoo, which involve mental control over others for bad purposes. 

An active 12th energy center has to do with mental expression. This trait, when active, is called visionary ability.  It is the ability to imagine a project on a mental level and then go ahead and create it.

The 14th center has to do with a culmination of the other mental centers and a well-integrated mental focus.




Women really shine in the realm of the upper energy centers.  However, they must first develop and this takes some work.  Unfortunately, getting started with development is by far the most difficult part of the task.

Being with a good man at the early stages of development is helpful for most women, and it is one reason we suggest getting married.  Having a boyfriend does not work as well, and this is one reason we discourage boyfriends.

A decent man provides a type of grounding and focus that can allow his lady to really come into her own power and knowing.  Women need to keep this in mind when dating or otherwise considering whom to associate with, and whom to marry. 

Even if the man who is interested in you is not perfect, if he is mature and stable he will often facilitate or enable you more easily to develop.  This is another meaning of the phrase, “men are like poles, and women are climbers of the poles”.



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