THE SEXUAL ORDER
by Dr. Lawrence Wilson
©June 2018, LD Wilson Consultants, Inc.
All information in this article is for
educational purposes only. It is
not for the diagnosis, treatment, prescription or cure of any disease or health
condition.
Contents
Definition
What The Sexual Order Is Not
Reasons
The Sexual Order Protects Women
Abuse
Letting Men Lead Is Not The Same As
Letting Them ÒRun Your LifeÓ
Sexual Order In The Larger Society
What Occurs When It Is Not Followed
When The Order Should Be Reversed
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I.
INTRODUCTION - WHAT IS THE SEXUAL ORDER CONCEPT?
Definition. The idea of the sexual order is that although
women are often just as intelligent as their husbands or male partners or more
so, it is often best that in the case of disagreement the man should make the
final decision in important matters that involve the two of them.
The
reason for it. The sexual order is an ancient
concept. The main reason for it is
that women are much more fearful than men. This is because they are smaller and physically weaker than
most men.
For this reason, women are much more prone to respond to threats, rapes,
tortures and other attacks.
All
of this colors womenÕs thinking greatly and affects their decision-making.
WHAT THE SEXUAL ORDER
IS NOT ABOUT
The
sexual order has nothing to do with anyoneÕs value or intrinsic worth in any
way. This is a common
misconception about it. Also, the
sexual order is not about who is better, more important, more loving, or who
comes first in the relationship. In fact, the one
who leads in any relationship or position must serve the other and the whole.
WHAT ABOUT WOMEN VOTING
It is
only relatively recently that women have voted in elections. In America, this change occurred in the
earth 1900s.
The
founders of America did not expound upon this subject, to the best of my
knowledge. However, I believe they
were not simply male chauvanists. I believe they realized that women are
more fearful and more easily controlled.
Therefore, it is not in their best interest or the best interest of
society that they vote on their own.
A
couple should ideally decide how to vote together. However, the concept of the sexual order applies.
Men,
as many people know, tend to vote much more conservative and less liberal than
women. We believe this is a positive
attribute of men.
When
women achieved the vote in America, soon after the so-called progressive era began. It was a time of tremendous growth in
the size and power of the national government. Many people believe it hastened the downfall of America.
THE SEXUAL ORDER
PROTECTS WOMEN
Far
from harming women, the concept of the sexual order has to do with protecting
women from harmful tendencies in their own thinking processes.
ABUSE OF THE SEXUAL
ORDER CONCEPT
Problems
with the sexual order include the following:
1. The womanÕs
feelings can be trampled. That is, the man can make her feel
stupid or inferior as a person. He
may believe that this is the reason he should make the final decisions for the
family.
This
is never correct. It is not the
reason he makes the decisions. It
is the factors above, which do not at all include intelligence or general
superiority. He is the stupid one
if he thinks he is superior or more intelligent than his wife.
2. The woman is
left out of the decision-making process. This is also always incorrect. In all situations, he should consult
her before
major decisions are made for a couple or for a family.
3. It is okay to push around or boss
around your wife. This is not the meaning of the sexual order, and is
incorrect.
Some
women choose to associate with immature or lower quality men. The idea of allowing such a man to Òrun
her lifeÓ and Òcontrol herÓ then sounds despicable, and intolerable.
However,
ladies, this is usually because you have chosen to associated
with an immature man and not to a good one who would only love you, not use
you. They are often the more
ÒnerdyÓ, less physically attractive ones, but a wise woman figures this out
very quickly and stops looking at the body and starts paying attention to a
manÕs thoughts, feelings and behavior, not his looks, which can always be
enhanced, if needed, with better clothing or better hygiene.
LETTING MEN LEAD IS NOT
THE SAME AS LETTING THEM ÒRUN YOUR LIFEÓ
It is
more about getting his input and allowing him to move you along in certain ways
that may seem odd or harsh, at times, but are often helpful, if you examine
them closely. This assumes, once
again, that one is mated to a good man.
Mature
women know this, as do mature men.
There is nothing wrong with following your pastorÕs advice, for example,
if it is wise. In the same way,
there is nothing wrong with following the advice of a wise or maturing man in a
man-woman relationship. Be very
clear about this.
Too
many psychics, psychologists and counselors mislead their clients by telling
them they must always Òbe in chargeÓ of their lives. This is simply wrong advice. Often the opposite is true. Letting others lead you is a wise move for most people, most
of the time. It will keep you
safer, cleaner in your thinking, and you will become mature much faster. To read more about becoming mature,
read How To Mature Faster on this website.
THE SEXUAL ORDER IN THE
LARGER SOCIETY
The
sexual order concept also applies to larger societal decision-making that
involves men and women. Those who
make these decisions are presidents, legislators, and judges.
WHEN THE ORDER MAY BE
REVERSED
In a
few cases, if the man and woman agree, and only then, they can reverse the
sexual order. A possible reason
for doing this is if the man is very ill or very depressed and beaten up in
some way, perhaps. In this case,
the woman may take over his role to a degree. Even in these cases, however, it is usually best to maintain
the sexual order as much as possible.
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