CHARACTER FLAWS AND THEIR CORRECTION
by Dr. Lawrence Wilson
© December 2019, LD Wilson Consultants, Inc.
All information in this article is for educational purposes only. It is not for the diagnosis, treatment, prescription or cure of any disease or health condition.
In order to achieve maturity, each person must get rid of certain character flaws. Here are the some important ones, arranged according to the 7 system:
1. UNGROUNDED. This is a common problem. It causes one to make unwise decisions, to run with the wrong crowd, and to follow political and other belief systems that are incorrect and often evil.
2. LAZINESS. Laziness means lacking in effort or lacking in diligence. It also means uncaring, without enough thought, sloppy, confused, and often disorganized.
This is a very common character flaw. It can express itself in many ways:
- Taking the easy way out.
- Skipping or omitting important actions.
- Cheating a little or a lot on taxes or other things.
- Wasting time on silly activities and projects that really yield little in the way of productive results.
Laziness can be physical, mental, emotional or spiritual.
3. LYING. This is a lack of desire to see and know the truth about everything and everyone. Lying can also be described as the deliberate altering of reality to suit oneÕs purposes.
Lying is the height of disrespect for the mind of others and the height of arrogance. It is rightfully condemned in the Bible, but is common in the general population today.
Lying includes deliberate misspeaking, denying the truth, omitting key information, exaggerating, spinning or twisting a story, slanting a story, mixing truth with lies, dramatizing, false advertising, and seduction.
Deceit or deceiving others is similar to lying, but worse. It is when one substitutes a lie for the truth in order to deliberately mislead another or send them in the wrong direction.
The only time lying is justified is if it will save someoneÕs life. For example, if someone wants to know where a person is and you believe the reason is to harm the person, it is good to lie and say you donÕt know, even if you do know.
4. INTENSE FEAR. This is a very common character flaw. The usual cause is early childhood experiences and traumas such as rape. An unhealthy body also contributes to intense fear because the body cannot cope well with reality.
Fear can be a positive force if it keeps you away from trouble. Very intense fear, however, harms the body and the mind and is not helpful.
5. DISTRUST. Skepticism is actually a positive trait so that one is not too gullible, which is another character flaw. However, the total inability to trust others is not healthy. Everyone is not a liar and everyone is not tring to hurt you.
6. LACK OF GRATITUDE. Gratitude is the primary mental attitude that greases the wheels of life. If one can remain grateful, life moves along much easier. However, if one is ungrateful, everything becomes more difficult and contentious.
Gratitude, at one level, means that one recognizes that one needs others and that we are all connected.
7. HATRED. This is a disgust with someone of something that is far beyond anything reasonable. It may be called a prejudice or block.
Hatred poisons the body and poisons relationships like nothing else. It should be rooted out of the personality as soon as one detects it.
For example, hatred is common among women who have experienced rape. This always slows recovery from rape.
OTHER CHARACTER FLAWS
We find that this is one of the worst character flaws if one wishes to develop quickly. One must be able to let go of the past and let go of grudges and resentments, no matter what occurred. For details, read Forgiving.
GLUTTONY OR EGO
This is the desire for more of something, and usually a desire for endless amounts of it. One can be gluttonous for money, sex, friends, love, family, power, fame, intellect or something else.
It is a dissatisfaction with the status quo that is exaggerated and out of balance. It is a covetous attitude, meaning a desire for that which one does not have, but it is out of balance.
INABILITY OR LACK OF DESIRE TO HEAR AND/OR LISTEN
Inability to hear is a problem in receiving information from others. Inability to listen is a problem with processing and thinking about information. For example, one must discern the source of the information and be open to changing oneÕs perceptions about the thoughts one is receiving.
We are putting these two problems together because one must do both to learn successfully, and they are closely related.
Both can be due to laziness, distraction, fixed ideas or prejudices, or arrogance. At times, they are due to mental, emotional or physical imbalances inside the body. The inability to listen well is very harmful for development, which requires tuning in and hearing instructions that come from guides. So this is an important problem.
Inability to listen is so important that we find it is often the key imbalance in a person.
This flaw is well known, and is the belief that one knows something when it is not true. It is also the feeling that one is above or better than others in some way. For more details, read Arrogance.