by Dr. Lawrence
Wilson
© May 2021, LD
Wilson Consultants, Inc.
All
information in this article is for educational purposes only. It is not for the diagnosis, treatment,
prescription or cure of any disease or health condition.
Most of this article consists of the ideas of Mr. Roy Masters of the Foundation of Human Understanding or www.fhu.com. Some of the ideas are not popular today, although they used to be well known among the general population.
THE FIRST MAN-WOMAN RELATIONSHIP
According to the bible, at one time a harmonious
relationship existed between man and woman in the Garden of Eden. Adam was given responsibility as overseer
or keeper of the Garden with Eve his helpmate and companion. Adam was promised protection and
happiness if he followed certain rules that God had set down.
Problems
began when Eve allowed herself to be tempted by the serpent, who represents the
lower or seductive force in the world.
Adam, in a moment of weakness, listened to Eve and joined her in eating
the forbidden fruit. In other
words, he doubted and disobeyed God and took Eve's advice instead to eat the
apple. Eve was just being used but
Adam didn't know this. When he saw
what had happened, Adam turned around and blamed Eve. God knew what had really occurred and banished them both
from the garden.
GodÕs
admonition was to eat of the tree of life and to avoid the tree of knowledge,
"for if you eat of that tree, you shall surely die". The
understanding of this statement is that, by seeking for knowledge, one is
seeking to BE God, rather than to be in awe of His wonders (not try to understand
them). The admonition was to live by faith.
The
ego is not satisfied unless it believes it knows everything and feels in
control. Psychologically, the fall
from the Garden of Eden was the rise of the ego and separation from God.
It was also the beginning of incorrect relationships between men and
women. As Adam's progeny, we
inherit the type of character flaw that Adam and Eve displayed. We doubt God's word and instead move
toward what our egos desire.
Although
it is beyond the scope of this paper, male and female can be applied to other
aspects of society. For instance,
Madison Avenue-style advertising is decidedly 'female' in the manner in which
it uses seduction to sell products.
Politicians are generally ÔfemaleÕ in seducing people to vote for them
with promises and smiles.
THE PROPER MAN-WOMAN RELATIONSHIP
ACCORDING TO ROY MASTERS, AND THE SEXUAL ORDER
Roy
Masters asserts in his books that in an ideal or happy relationship, a truly
spiritual man is the head of the household. Such men are not that common today in general society,
unfortunately. Perhaps for this
reason, in part, the idea of the man leading the way is not popular today, but
it is practiced in many Christian homes to some extent, at least. It does not exactly mean that he gives
the order and she obeys. It means
that he takes the lead, especially when the couple is in public. It may also mean that he is more
logical, while she can be more emotionally driven, sentimental, and has other
qualities that are good in the right context, but can lead to poorer decisions
for a family.
This
concept is called the Sexual Order, and is
discussed in another article on this website in more detail. It has nothing to do with who is
ÒbetterÓ or more capable. It has
to do with certain biological qualities of men and women that make men a little
better at leading, while women are often better at following.
Women
who join with such a man feel constantly loved, safe and secure. They are happy to go along with the
desires of the man in a sexual way, and in other areas of life as well, because
they know that all of it is divinely inspired, one might say, because the man
is closely connected with his Creator.
This is a repeating, essentially, of the creation story in which man
came first before woman.
Continuing
the sequence of energetic relationship, children are then born to the couple
and the woman, along with her husband, is able to nourish and nurture the
children properly because she has the full support and energetic support of her
husband. This is the ideal
Christian marriage, as Roy Masters explains it.
If
a woman is not married, then she becomes the Òspiritual manÓ and leads herself,
and perhaps her children as well.
This works, too, and is common today. It is harder on her, although she may develop in a mental
and spiritual way more as a result of having to fulfill two roles, as it were
– father and mother.
UNHAPPY OR REVERSED MAN-WOMAN
RELATIONSHIPS
In unhappy man-woman relationships, the couple
tends to repeat the Adam and Eve story over and over again. That is, the man separates himself from
the will of God or the Creator. He
essentially is tempted by the charms, sexuality, or other qualities of the woman,
who does not realize that her charms are not often positive qualities. They are attractive to men, but they
are not her higher nature, if I may use that term. Her charms are her good looks, her body shape, her intellect
or her cleverness, for example.
As
a result, the man falls away from his higher nature and ÒfallsÓ into the
womanÕs lower nature or sexual attraction, and while the woman may seem to
enjoy it, eventually she becomes angry and resentful because she no longer has
a true companion, but rather a weaker somewhat dependent, more animalistic male instead
of a godly man
in her life. If they have
children, she often will try to Òsteal loveÓ or obtain the love she needs and
wants from her children because she is not getting it from her husband. This often destroys the selfhood of the
children, who should be on the receiving end, not the giving end of the family
relationship in this way, at least.
The
children, in turn, realize at a deep level they are being deprived of GodÕs
love or energy and they grow up angry, depleted of a type of life substance,
and essentially are victims instead of being full of the CreatorÕs love from
the their parents. They go on to
have their own children in this aberrant way without the love of the
Creator. This perpetuates a cycle
of spiritual emptiness or spiritual poverty, in turn creating continuing war,
poverty, disease, depression and misery on planet earth through the
generations.
In
other words, when the sexual order or proper relationship between man and woman
are not maintained, all members of the family project their fear and anger
outwards, causing wars, disorder and disharmony at the community, national and
international level.
This
is a brief introduction to the concepts in this article. By the way, you need not subscribe to
these ideas to enjoy and benefit from the mental exercise recommended on this
website. However, if you do the
mental exercise, which brings in the godly energy forcefully into the body and
mind, you may find yourself suddenly more open to these ideas.
THE RETURN TO GRACE AS THE SOLUTION
TO RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
Mr.
Masters goes on to say that men and women can restore a more healthful
relationship if they are among the rare few who are fortunate enough to read
and understand this article, or other books that state the same thing,
essentially. They must once again
draw sustenance from 'the tree of life', or the creator, rather than from Ôthe
tree of ego knowledgeÕ.
Everyone
must realize that just pursuing ego desires, which builds pride and puffs up
the ego, cuts them off from divine love.
One continues to suffer until the ego and the intellect are once again
submerged to their rightful subordinate place, or submitted to God, as some
would say.
MOTIVES FOR RELATIONSHIPS
Many
people get into relationships for the wrong reasons, and Mr. Masters addresses this
consideration, which is an important one.
He often said, Òmen fall in ÒloveÓ, while women fall in hateÓ. The meaning of this is that men fall
away from God, making woman and perhaps sex or ego love into a God.
In
turn, most women actually resent the men's weakness and lack of awareness. They know that most men know nothing of
love. This leads to hatred of
men. Most women, however, feel
guilty about their angry feelings and deny them by going along with the weak
men and calling it 'love'. They derive
a certain angry pleasure and joy from being in charge of the weak men in their
lives, serving them up a little sex and food, perhaps, in return for a certain
type of worship by the men and attention.
This often takes the form of the men giving them money or status or
other societal pleasures such as vacations and even children who are then
misused to grow the ego of the couple.
Another
general principle of relationships that Mr. Masters would repeat is that Òmen are looking
for the mother they always knew, while women are looking for a father they
never knewÓ (the true love or the Creator). By this is meant that men are mostly weaklings who are trying
to get back to the womb, so to speak, while women are searching for a real
godly man, the kind that too often their fathers were not.
As
a result, most relationships begin for the wrong reasons. Instead of looking for a solid strong
man of god, or a lady who will be oneÕs companion in oneÕs godly walk, people
look for simple companionship, sex, security, good looks, financial support,
ego stroking or other egotistical benefits. There is nothing inherently wrong with these, as long as
they are subordinated to high motives.
As
a result of this, many relationships are not between really compatible individuals,
and this is one reason for disharmony and divorce. Of course, the motives can change, and often must change if
the relationship is to survive.
One of the most important changes is to learn to love another even if
the other does not live up to oneÕs earlier sexual or other expectations. This is a maturing process that couples
must go through if their relationship is to survive.
WHAT IS THE SPIRITUAL PURPOSE OF
MARRIAGE?
Mr.
Masters asserts that marriage is the setting or battleground where two people
can become aware of their hidden motives and other personality and spiritual
flaws, and correct them. Through
patience with one another, they can learn to relate correctly and move back
toward a 'Garden of Eden' condition.
They can work to find the CreatorÕs love, instead of lower level sexual,
ego-stroking or other lower human types of ÒloveÓ.
Becoming
aware of oneÕs own flaws is rarely pleasant, and is particularly upsetting if
one resists knowing the truth. But
if one desires the truth about oneself, relationships offer a process of
purification which leads to changes and maturity, that in turn leads to
happiness. This is the true early
purpose of relationships.
Once
this process has occurred to a certain degree, at least, the marriage becomes a
blending of beautiful energies of two souls who then can bear children, uplift
others, and in turn uplift and purify their family, their community, and the
entire world. This is the other
major spiritual purpose of relationships of all kinds, in fact. Marriage is just the most intimate of
these, but the principle of souls working together for the good, the holy and
the beautiful in life applies to all types of relationships in families, in
business, in social settings, and even between nations and continents.
THE TWO ASPECTS OF LOVE
(This
section is not from Roy Masters)
Another critical and confusing issue in relationships and marriage has
to do with the two aspects of love.
These two aspects need to be understood clearly. One is not better than the other, but
they are very different.
Masculine or
more yang love. One is a type
of nourishing power
or energy and truth, somewhat like the way the sun warms the earth and
makes all life grow. It is hotter,
more masculine and more yang in Chinese medical terms. however, it is not limited to men, by
any means. It is not kissy, huggy
or sexy, and it is deeply caring and what may be called competent or
informed. It is sometimes called tough love.
It
is the type of love Jesus demonstrated, with which he did amazing miracles and
could transform others. He
admonished, "love others as I have loved you" (in the way I have
loved you).
Feminine or
more yin love. There is also a
type of nurturing, more huggy and sexy type of love that one associates more
with women, particularly mothers (though it is by no means limited to
women). It is necessary to build
up the little egos of babies and children to make sure they grow up strong and
confident in themselves. Jesus of
Nazareth certainly also demonstrated this type of love, at times, as it is
needed, at times, for most people.
These two types of love might be compared to the
forces of fire and water, or the fiery love of the heavenly father and the
nurturing type of love of mother earth provides for us.
The feminine type of love enables one
to grow as an ego being. It is
helpful and needed for children and adults, too. The masculine aspect of love sears or burns away the ego
self, strengthening one's character in the process, so that what emerges is an
'enlightened' or truly spiritual being.
It is more of a 'tough love' in this regard.
The
problem in relationships is that most men and women are fixated to the feminine kind
of love, idealized in woman.
This is so because:
á
Some
men and women were deprived of the nurturing, more feminine type of love, so
they spend their life running after it to find what they missed as children.
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It
requires some courage, faith, maturity and a healthy self-love to embrace the often
more painful second type of love.
Jesus and others acted as role models to encourage us to 'take the
journey', but many are not yet willing to do so.
á
Society
today is ego-oriented, with much emphasis on the ego-building type of
love. The prevailing social
welfare state value system encourages weakness, dependency and
ego-building. Few today stand up
for what they believe. Compromise
is the order of the day. One is
taught to be nice, be politically correct and believe in victims. Few children are taught the value of
rugged independence and standing up for principle no matter what happens.
The masculine type of love is less promoted in the
media. In fact, some have been
brainwashed into thinking it is not even real, and is just meanness. For example, this is how many liberals
think about the bible and the Ten Commandments – that they are just mean
and serve to control and enslave people, especially women. This is the standard liberal thinking.
Now
let us discuss particular problems for men and for women.
FOR MEN -
The Problem
Roy
Masters says that most men tend to be addicted to women. They 'love' women like the alcoholic
loves alcohol. It is a form of use
and abuse. They are woman-centered
beings and think this is normal or 'just natural' when it is the opposite of
normal. Due to this character
flaw, men either:
1. Give too much power to women, looking to women for approval and ego support. They become wimps, in other words. OR
2.
They resent their spiritual weakness and become angry beasts - using and
abusing women to some degree, at least, in a futile attempt to regain the
dignity that they feel women have somehow stolen from them.
In
either case, most men use women to relieve their own pain and loneliness. This is not love and women know
it. Sometimes men know it too, but
feel trapped and unsure what to do.
They may react by giving up and withdrawing, or by becoming violent and
blaming women for their problems.
Where did the problem come
from?
1) THE BIBLICAL VIEW OF ORIGINAL SIN. In the bible story, Adam lost his
connection with God. That was the
beginning of problems for both man and woman in the garden of Eden, and
continues to this day.
2) ANIMAL MAGNETISM (SEX). Animal magnetism is a desire for or
attraction to things of the flesh.
Separated from their Creator, men and women are just 'naturally' and
unconsciously attracted in a sexual and fleshy way. As any aware man or woman knows, much ÒloveÓ is just sexual
attraction. There is a natural
male instinct to 'plant his seed', but this is not love. Similarly, many women feel they need to
have babies, and lure a husband for this reason. This is not love, either.
Since
most men and women know no other kind of love, they equate sexual attraction or
other ego desires with love. There
is nothing wrong with physical attraction, but one needs to understand it for
what it is and is not.
Animal magnetism
may be expressed as a reproduce-and-die instinct. It must be overcome by realizing there is another life, the
spiritual life, which transcends the physical. If more men and women experienced Òtrue spiritual loveÓ from
their parents, they would know the difference between desire and love. Since this is rare, almost everyone
grows up confused and ignorant about love.
3) IMPRINTING. All men tend to have an identity problem that is not
experienced or well understood by women.
Most men were raised by women.
To some degree, at least, almost all are imprinted with their motherÕs
identity. In biology, imprinting
is a phenomenon found especially in animals. The way it works is that the first contacts of life exert a
powerful influence for the rest of the life of the animal. In nature, it is no doubt a protective
device. A baby chicken or goat or
lion sees and smells and hears its mother as soon as it is born, and learns to
follow her to stay safe.
Since
most people are raised more by women, especially early in life, Mr. Masters
says that imprinting of men to women is a force that affects men throughout
their lives.
For
women, the issues are different as they are imprinted with women, which tends
to strengthen their gender identity.
Men are imprinted to the opposite sex, which they do not understand. They feel a certain insecurity and are drawn
to and unduly influenced by women in ways they cannot explain. Imprinting is real even if men deny
it. It is often confused with
love. Some men hate and resent the
attraction and take it out on women through anger, violence, rape or other
means. Most, however, just give in
and think it is ÒloveÓ that makes the world go around, as the saying goes. NO, it is imprinting in many cases, at
least this is one factor in relationships.
Imprinting
probably cannot be totally overcome, but it can be subordinated or submitted to
God or to a higher will and higher purposes.
4) REGRESSIVE DESIRES BASED ON FEAR. Without true faith, men and women are
emotionally weak. There is a
strong desire to go back to the womb, back to comfort and coddling, back to
'mommy'. Unlike imprinting, this
tendency is based on spiritual weakness, not a biological instinct. It can be very subtle, and is often
reinforced by society in many ways, such as equating wealth and power with
having someone 'wait' on you.
Men
often have a conflict over this.
On one hand they want to be independent, but on the other hand they like
to be taken care of. If a man was
spoiled by his parents, this problem becomes worse. The manÕs independent spirit was lost or destroyed. This can create a desire to go back to
the womb, but also causes resentment of the loss. Back to the womb is another way of saying the man wants
ÒmommyÓ back, and this is a force in some relationships.
5. ATTRACTION TO AND DESIRE FOR THE FEMININE
ASPECT OF LOVE, often embodied in women.
This important topic was discussed just above this section.
6. THE NEED FOR COMPANIONSHIP. Most people feel a strong need to have
a companion, and without one are somewhat lonely. This is someone to live with, eat dinner with, sleep with,
and perhaps do other things with.
While this is okay, it can lead to a desire for a man-woman relationship
that is not necessarily healthy, and is often somewhat co-dependent. The need for a companion skews oneÕs
judgment, often attracting one to the first person who comes along and is
willing to have a relationship, whether or not that person is truly compatible
with oneself.
An
important and often hidden reason for the need for companionship is to avoid
searching within and facing oneÕs own fears and other emotions. OneÕs attention is directed toward the
companion most of the time, distracting one from oneÕs own issues and
conflicts. Being alone brings up
these issues and is uncomfortable for most people.
Another
reason for the need for companionship is the feeling of oneÕs own
inadequacy. If one does not feel
loved and worthy, one can at least take comfort that oneÕs companion thinks
enough of you to be in a relationship with you.
Another
reason for the need for companionship is the need for touch. This is a deep need for many
people. It may stem from a lack of
touch as a child, or a need to feel connected in a physical way. It is beneficial for many people,
although it can hold one in a harmful relationship when it would be better to
move on.
A
more positive reason for a man to want a companion is simply to have more fun
and to share his positive energy.
7. EARLY TRAINING AND THE MEDIA. Boys are often taught to pursue the
girls, even to rape them if they really ÒloveÒ them, sadly. This is sick, but it is common in many
secular societies, including our own, and sadly even promoted in the
media. This literally ruins many
possibly happy relationships because the men are simply misinformed about what
women need and want.
8. ANATOMY/PHYSIOLOGY. Men are much more hormone-driven than women in the sexual
area. As many young men know, they
want to connect sexually with a lady, even though they havenÕt the faintest
idea why or what this is about.
The testis are low on the body of the man, compared to the woman, and
right near the genital area, which is very sensitive and exposed to the touch.
This
all makes men quite easy to arouse sexually, and sends them searching for a
sexual partner quickly and often constantly. While good to reproduce the species, most men come to
associate their sexual feelings as ÒloveÓ, and the mix up themselves and their
women by doing so. Sex is sex, but
it is not love or caring, gentlemen.
9. ETHERIC LONGING. This is not part of Roy Masters
work. However, I am told that men
are attracted to a frequency in women that is related to the mineral
copper. It is a softness,
gentleness, sexy, warm feeling that men actually lack in their beings. Men are not aware of this attractive
force, but it is real and it draws them to women, and often to the wrong
ones. It draws them to the ones
that have the most of this etheric energy, and not necessarily to the highest
quality women.
What are men to do?
Correction
begins with understanding the above as clearly as possible. It usually will take some time for the
ideas to sink in. Men must see
they are controlled by forces they cannot see. In other words, they must give up the illusion they are in
control of their desires, and that those desires are 'just natural'. Men must also see that resentment of the
lack of love during childhood is the trauma or shock that separated them
from God, or from their center of dignity, early in life.
Most
male children are set up to fail at an early age. Often their mothers secretly resented their husbands for not
being more of a man. Mothers often
unconsciously turn the children against their father, in revenge against the
husband. Some men are won over by
their mothers and become 'mamas boys', while others develop fear or hatred
toward women as a result of this use and abuse of the children. One needs to understand this with
compassion so that one can forgive
parents for whatever transpired during early childhood.
On
a spiritual level, men must transform themselves from ego‑centered or
woman-centered male animals into God-centered men, from Òman born of womanÓ to
Òman reborn of GodÓ. Roy Masters
asserts that to do this, men must have a love affair with God that outshines
their affection for any woman.
Otherwise, men compulsively use women for ego satisfaction or sex. It makes no difference if both partners
think it is love.
In
other words, a man must not need a woman for his happiness. He has to be fulfilled through God's
love alone. If he needs her (spiritually),
he cannot love her. True love has
nothing to do with need or 'getting a feeling' from a woman. If need or 'feelings of love' take
precedence, then love becomes a selfish type of love. It is trying to get something from her, which invariably hurts
her. A man must become conscious
of his motives, and in relating to a woman he must learn to protect her from his lower self. Correct behavior for a man requires
discernment that can only come from becoming aware of his behavior.
Mr.
Masters says that his meditation exercise, along with prayer and understanding,
is necessary in most cases, and always helpful, to increase this awareness and
restore a manÕs connection with his higher self or God. He must see that his wife needs God's
love as it flows through him (God's love is the only real love). If a man
is submitting his will to the Higher Will, true love or God's love will come
through him. Many women are so
desperate for love that they will accept some 'mixture' or impure version of
love. This does not make it correct for a man to act this way.
This,
in a nutshell, is how Roy Masters understands the dilemma of being a man and
seeking a fulfilling relationship with someone of the opposite sex.
Wait for
marriage until age 30 or so.
(This is not from Roy Masters.) Men may be better off to wait until
around age 30 to marry. The reason
is that men tend to mature later than most women, and around age 30 or shortly
thereafter, many men become clearer about what they want from life.
FOR WOMEN -
According
to Mr. Masters, many womenÕs problem is they are full of resentment and anger,
which deeply motivates them, although they are not very aware of it. They often relish it, as many of them,
at a young age, have been ÒturnedÓ or ÒconvertedÓ into angry beasts (some would
say whores) who learn well how to exploit their bodies and their charms to get
what they want in life.
This
rather negative view of many women gets Roy Masters into lots of trouble, by
the way. However, if you listen to
him carefully, he
states that the real problem is the men, who simply do not love their women
correctly, starting at age 1 or earlier. Women, he said, are manÕs companions, and must be loved
properly or they develop into angry companions.
Where The Problem Comes From.
1) THE BIBLICAL EXPLANATION. According to the bible, Eve was more
subject to corrupting forces acting through her than Adam. Part of the corrupt nature that operates
through her is that she can manipulate her man, although it is not her true
desire. This makes her angry in
many cases, even if she enjoys controlling and manipulating men with her
charms, her body and other ways.
2) IMPRINTING. Women do not imprint to the opposite sex, in general, as
most baby girls are cared for by women.
Thus, in some ways, women have less confusion about their identity. However, in most cases, the identity
they bond with is not a healthy one.
For
example, in all women, imprinting strengthens the women's sexual identity. This can lead to pridefulness,
willfulness and thoughts that women should be worshiped. This flaw makes it more difficult for
many women to submit their wills to any higher authority, including God or a
spiritual man.
Many
mothers are also secretly angry and resent their husbands. So the process of becoming angry and
resentful may begin the moment a young woman is born.
Other
problems with imprinting powerfully occur, for example, if the mother is
neurotic, for example. This can be
passed on to the child more easily in a woman, perhaps, causing problems later
in life.
3) ANIMAL MAGNETISM. Women are influenced by the reproduce-and-die instinct, as
are men. They may use men in order
to produce children or for material gain or other selfish reasons. They may also want children to be able to
rob the children of their life essence.
It is a vampire-like use of men and of children that is a fleshy type of
animalistic nature found in some men and women.
4) LOOKING FOR LOVE. Instead of going within to explore the forces acting through
them, many women simply accept the power and control they have over men as
'natural'. This is often expressed
as 'the need to be needed.'
Unfortunately it is a big ego trip, not a loving relationship. Women
need to see that the love they desire they must first feel from within. Only then will they be able to discern
which men can provide real love and which ones cannot. Women who love their fathers, in
general, are much better at discerning which men are real lovers, and not just
users.
5) CONFUSION ABOUT WHAT IS LOVE. Many women are confused about the
masculine and feminine types of love.
Selfish women think that love is about having enough sex, hugs and
kisses, and often about having someone to take care of them. This might be called Ôsugar daddy
loveÕ.
These
women, who are plentiful, strongly dislike the tough, more masculine love that
strips away their illusions and exposes the truth to them on a regular
basis. When the process of
exposing illusions begins in a relationship, these women flee or avoid seeing
by accusing their partners of not being 'loving' and kind. (See Kalil Gibran's poem, 'On Love', in
The Prophet). Few women, in fact, really appreciate a
tough, strong, direct, honest and aware man in their life, sad to say. These women are blessed and usually are
the ones who excel in life easily as they have the support of true love behind
them.
6)
EARLY TRAINING. Most women's
'training' begins at a young age.
Fathers, with few exceptions, are typical men - weak or violently
strong. Young girls know they are
not being loved properly, but do not understand what is happening. Some fathers are afraid of their
attraction for their pretty daughters, so they become distant, which can send a
message that a girl is not pretty or lovable. Others are too huggy and touchy, which can send other
messages, while a few resort to molestation or even incest because they do not
know how to love a woman any other way, or for other reasons.
Often a girl's mother is prideful and willful, and
secretly or openly resents her husband.
The mother's attitudes are often carefully cultivated in the daughter,
as a way to 'get back' at the father.
This is all done quite unconsciously.
Women
have a strong need to be loved in a proper way, and the spoiling and/or cruelties
experienced in childhood cause many women to feel intense resentment toward her
parents. So powerful is this
resentment, that until such a woman gets in touch with it, her secret resentment always colors all
future relationships. This
secret hatred causes many women to feel guilty, and many try to Ômake upÕ for
it by being extra kind and nice toward men - going along when they should not.
Identity
Exchange. Many times a mother will exchange
identities with a daughter. The
mother gives the daughter a masculine identity that she acquired from her
mother, and takes the feminine identity of the daughter, which she secretly
desires. It is a sick way to
regain her innocent child-like self by stealing it from a daughter. This is all done completely unconsciously,
but it will affect a young girl and on into adulthood until she begins to do
the proper meditation exercise or connects with a godly man who helps her to
correct herself and forgive her parents and everyone else who helped upset her
early in life.
7) ETHERIC NEED. Some women crave a substance or
chemical that men make in the prostate gland, I am told. It attracts them to sex and men for
reasons they do not understand.
Virgins, of course, are not aware of this need, but once they have sex
and receive a manÕs sexual fluid, they are often ÔhookedÕ on men, to some
degree or another.
Also,
most women do not realize that men are attracted to a frequency that women
carry. They think it is their good
looks or something else, and this misleads them into thinking they are more
beautiful or loving than they really are.
So they get married or get into relationships and the truth becomes
evident that the man wants the female body around, but does not appreciate the
woman behind it, and this is disturbing to most women.
8) ANATOMY.
Women tend to be higher in copper and lower in zinc. This can make many of them more spacy,
ungrounded, gullible and more emotional than men. This often works against the women and clouds their thinking
in every area of life, including relationships.
Women
are also more yin in Chinese medical terms. Other anatomical differences include the ovaries are further
apart from one another, and this may make women less centered. Also, the ovaries are higher up on the
body, which is less grounded.
These anatomical differences all make the woman more yin in Chinese
medical terms, which means more flighty, less centered and grounded, and less
able to think clearly, especially at this time in history. For much more on this interesting
topic, read Yin And Yang Healing and Yin Disease on this site.
Anger in women. According to Roy Masters, anger is a
basic problem of most all women.
After all, they are the target of menÕs dark thoughts of sexual conquest
from the time of their birth, sadly.
They are also the target of other womenÕs jealousy in many cases,
especially if they are attractive.
Also, because women are not imprinted to the opposite sex so they have
less sexual identity confusion.
This increases their awareness a lot. But this allows them to see how stupid and even evil are men
who pursue them just for sex, or mainly for it. All this makes them angry, since they want to be loved for
who they are. Women tend to react
to their own anger in several ways:
á
Some women
become seductresses. They take
advantage of men's weakness and enjoy manipulating men. A seductress controls by flattery and
catering to male sexual weakness.
Many men enjoy and even demand their women be seductive. These men enjoy falling to the
temptation, which they call 'falling in love'.
Women
are naturally seductive for men due to the reasons explained above about animal
magnetism, but many do not understand this. Many women fool themselves into thinking they are just
innocent maidens who enjoy dressing up, fixing their hair and doing thousands
of other things to lure and manipulate men. These women enjoy the sense of power and superiority they
have over men.
In
fact, however, this is just a way they avoid looking at their own weakness of
having given in to resentment and hatred.
Some
women do not like the power the men give them, but their own egos cause them to
accept the power anyway. Although
men often encourage these roles, women also feel strangely secure in them. While things may begin innocently
enough, the woman eventually begins to resent the man's weakness for her, even
though she enjoys the control she has over him. This principle explains why some women will even stay with a
violent man - she can still be in control even though her power is only that
she can provoke him to violence.
Often, women blame men for these problems, not realizing their part in
creating the situation.
á
Some
women become too kind and submissive.
They are often taken advantage of by angry or violent men. Sometimes these women stay with a
violent man because they secretly feel superior to the brute.
á
Some
women deal with their anger by becoming hardened or even aggressive. This may be a positive step toward
solving their spiritual problem on their own. However, unless they deal with the source of their anger,
many become domineering or ÔtoughÕ.
It is a cover-up that may work for a while, but leads to illness and
depression. They repress their
feminine side, which reduces their happiness and can make them less attractive
as a companion.
These
women also become threatened by truly strong men, who would challenge their
egos. They often gravitate to weak
men who wonÕt challenge them, but whom they resent for their weakness. In other words, many women resent weak
men, but they want them because they are afraid of strong, secure men. This is a difficult dilemma for many
women.
The
answer for them is not to abandon their masculine side, but to recover the
feminine aspect to complement and balance it. Unfortunately, few women understand their basic problem of
greater spiritual awareness than their men that has led them to anger.
á
Some
women assume a ÔmotheringÕ role.
It satisfies the male ego and is a subtle way to be in control of a
man. A woman can feel strangely
secure in this role, although most secretly resent it.
á
Some
women take on other roles, like the prostitute or whore, or become nuns and
celibates, or go into business to forget that they are confused about men and
relationships.
What Can Women Do?
The
first step is to understand the above thoroughly. Many women just give up, which is a shame. Meditation can help one become aware of
unconscious forces. Conflicts and
expectations diminish and relationships miraculously improve. Eventually, women need to stop hating
men. Learning patience is
required. They must see that
resentment only hurts them and absolutely prevents real love from coming through.
Women
must beware of seeing themselves as 'simple, innocent maidens'. While this may be true of a very few,
it is rare. Often there are other
motives one may not be aware of, such as enjoying being worshiped (often called
loved). Women need to trust their common sense and
not compromise principles for any reason. This means insist on real love, accepting no substitutes or excuses. Do
not settle for less. As women
begin to explore the magnitude of unconscious forces playing with their minds,
they can better forgive their parents, particularly their fathers. They will see that real love was absent
because her parents were unable to provide it, not because they did not care
for her. Fathers and mothers were
victims themselves and did their best.
A
common trap for women is giving up their principles and what they knows is
right for some form of glory or power provided by a man. It is simple to become addicted to this
power, so easily is it obtained.
Women need to see it will only bring unhappiness in the end. Seeing this at every moment, they can
give up the undeserved control and power that most men will hand to them.
To
manipulate unaware men to get what one wants is an ever-present
temptation. It can also make one
resent what one sees that men can not see. A spiritually-oriented woman should feel that something is
very wrong if a man is cruel or if he caters to her too much. Either of these is an indication she is not dealing with an
aware man.
Another
temptation is spiritual pride ‑ using one's greater awareness to control
a man in order to make him over in oneÕs image of how he should be. This is spiritually incorrect, as much
as one might rationalize it, and will lead to unhappiness. Men have to find God and truth on their
own. Many times woman's love for a man is to be
patient with him, provided he continues to make progress in his spiritual
growth.
Many
women marry expecting to be loved, and are disappointed. Patience can help them see that sex,
flattery or control are not love.
FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN
The
need to be needed, so often touted in psychology books, attracts both men and
women to needy rather than fulfilled partners. By feeling needed, one
gains ego satisfaction, but often resents the clinging, weakling nature of the
needy partner. The 'need to be
needed' stops real love because such a person cannot accept love. He or
she only accepts problems and needs, which can be resented and/or 'remedied'. From this one derives a false sense of
worth and goodness. It is a subtle
ego trip.
Love
is not need. A discerning man or
woman makes sure a potential partner at least has a good chance of becoming
emotionally independent. Some need
is normal, however, as otherwise few would want a relationship.
A
potential partner who does not fall 'head over heels' in love may become a
better partner than one who does.
The more relaxed prospect
may just be more independent, a benefit in the long run. If someone is madly in love with you
one week, he or she is likely to fall madly in love with someone else next
week. Beware!
Both
men and women need to explore willfulness. It needs
to be observed and slowly replaced with God's Will. Otherwise it sours relationships.
Unaware
men often appear 'strong' and 'masculine' on the surface. Others are very wealthy and
hard-working – but this may be a compensation for their emotional or
spiritual weakness. Unaware women
may be beautiful. Both men and
women need to look below the surface so as not to be deceived by appearances. It is wiser for men and women to
remain single than be with the wrong partner.
Sometimes
one picks a partner whom one secretly knows is not as aware as oneself so that
one can feel superior and safe. One knows one will not be loved properly and
therefore does not have to experience the transforming and sometimes disturbing
power of true love. This love
force can change one in ways that would threaten or destroy the ego self.
MODERN-DAY ROLE REVERSAL
Today role reversal is very common. Some of this is a healthy sharing of
responsibilities and experimentation with economic arrangements to provide more
freedom and flexibility. However,
it can become exaggerated and often leads to physical and mental illness.
Causes
for role reversal include biochemical and nutritional imbalances that affect
the sex hormones. This in turn
leads to behavioral changes.
Mineral imbalances including zinc deficiency, and copper and cadmium
toxicity can play a role. These
are very common today. Pesticides
and other environmental chemicals often mimic estrogen and have hormonal
effects. Female hormones fed to
livestock to fatten them end up in dairy and meats and affect hormonal balance. Occasionally, genetic problems cause
hormonal imbalances leading to role reversal.
Identity
exchange, mentioned earlier, is another important cause of role reversal. Most commonly, a mother steals her
daughterÕs feminine identity and replaces it with a male identity she has
received that she does not want. A
father may implant a feminine identity in a male child, stealing his
masculinity to replace his that was lost many years before. This occurs unconsciously, but quite
often. To see it requires
meditation or other techniques to enhance awareness. It is often a hidden cause of resenting parents.
WHAT IS THE SOLUTION FOR BOTH MEN
AND WOMEN?
Awareness is
the answer. According to Roy
Masters, and others, enhancing your awareness is a continuous process, not a one‑time
event. It requires surrendering the ego will, repeatedly, which permits
awareness to enter. One can then see the truth and act on
what one sees and knows to be correct.
Submitting
the ego will or lower will requires self-discipline and may cause unpredictable
changes in one's life. Friendships
may be exposed for what they really are and one's entire way of living may need
to change. Selfish or weak men and
women will recoil from such a process. Like being chiseled by a master
sculptor, it will have its painful moments. The most difficult part is
realizing over and over how suggestible, programmed and hypnotized one can be.
WHAT IS THE PROCESS FOR SUBMITTING
ONE'S WILL?
Submitting
the ego will has little to do with doing good deeds, being nice or attending
religious services. These can serve
to teach one about the process, although some organized religions have
perverted things terribly and often cause more confusion. The process is beyond religion and has
to do with a simple four-step process that is
discussed in a separate article.
It begins with desire, followed by intention, which is just sustained
desire. This is followed by
allowing and then surrender, which leads to joy.
Surrender
itself is an increase
in awareness that brings a feeling of "Oh, now I see what I've
unconsciously been doing or been part of". It brings its own resolution or change. There is no hesitation - one just stops
doing what one was doing because the truth of the whole matter is revealed.
This
must occur with one's entire being and with complete sincerity. Nothing
less will do. Actually, one only
asks for surrender and it is given when one is ready. It can not be forced or willed because it is beyond the
human will.
MEDITATION AND SURRENDER
Surrender
often occurs through sheer heartache or physical collapse, learning by one's
mistakes. It can be accomplished
more quickly through meditation and other techniques.
Roy
Masters also suggests a particular observation-meditation
exercise, which he says he did spontaneously as a child. It is a simple, but precise technology
that has been taught for thousands of years, in fact. I have modified it somewhat to make it more powerful, I
believe, by simply focusing on moving energy downward from the head to the
feet. The advantages are discussed
in an article entitled Downward Motion and Healing.
TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS
Mr.
Masters says a continuum exists between unconscious and fully conscious
relationships.
1) UNCONSCIOUS
RELATIONSHIP. For the unaware,
relationships are a battleground with ego-to-ego fighting, a battle of wills
and much concern with who is right, instead of what is right. Through disillusionment and unhappiness, hopefully the partners will
be impelled to 'wake up'. This is
the most common type of relationship.
This
is a relationship between two egos.
The ego roles, which may alternate back and forth, include overpowering
the other through intimidation of some kind, or flattering and catering to the
other in order to gain one's ends.
This type of relationship tends to be rocky, with one of three
outcomes. Either:
- The real issues are avoided and an uneasy truce is called, or
- Issues come up and the partnership survives and overcomes, or
- The relationship ends - usually with both parties unhappy, blaming, or at least confused as to what went wrong.
2) SEMI-CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP. For those who are slightly more aware
of their own ego needs and desires, one can enter into a relationship
consciously, knowing what one is getting into, knowing there is a spiritual
aspect to work through. To succeed
requires understanding the necessity for submission of the ego will. It is helpful if the relationship has a
spiritual purpose that is greater than either of the partners.
Some
people going into a second marriage, or who have waited long enough to watch
their friends go through misery and divorce and who have searched their own
souls a bit, can experience this
type of marriage. Some happiness
is assured if commitment is present.
However, a semi-conscious marriage still leaves much to be desired. Both partners will not enjoy it much of
the time as one or the other or both still has much to learn.
3) RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN FRIENDS. Finally, a small percentage of people
have worked their way back to a proper relationship with the creator. These people can experience what he
calls a
marriage of friends that is harmonious - the ideal one thinks of. This is a relationship between two
aware beings, a loving partnership in which each supports the other and their
love overflows into the world.
Such
a couple becomes a great force for good.
They avoid wasting energy in conflicts and disputes. Each brings a unique perspective to the
relationship that enhances it.
This type of marriage is rare, but an ideal to strive for. The other types of marriage can move
toward a marriage of friends with time and effort.
WHY MARRIAGE AND NOT CASUAL
ARRANGEMENTS?
Many
people opt for casual arrangements instead of marriage. Perhaps they had a negative experience
with marriage or fear commitment.
However, Roy Masters say that if two people live together, they are married
energetically, whether or not they sign papers. Their energy centers and subtle bodies blend due to their
physical contact, affecting one another.
Spiritually,
commitment is most important in order to let go of ego traits. Otherwise there is a strong tendency to
split up when deeper issues arise and the going gets tough. While splitting up is alright, if the
lessons are not learned one often finds oneself in another relationship with
the same type of person, dealing with the same issues over again. It is best to make a deliberate
commitment, understanding that any relationship goes deeper than living
arrangements or signing papers.
CASUAL SEX
Casual
sex starts any relationship on the wrong foot, on a physical basis rather than
a spiritual one. Animal forces are
aroused, which tend to crowd out common sense so that one may become involved
with someone with whom one has little in common beyond physical desire.
In fact, both
partners lose with casual sex.
The woman may become pregnant and both become somewhat nutritionally
depleted from fluid loss. Both
often spread horrible diseases, though our society and medical profession
discount this fact on a daily basis.
Also, subtle but powerful energy exchanges occur during sex that make
some people depressed. Some tend
to steal energy in the phenomenon called Energetic
Vampirism, discussed in a separate article.
Mr.
Masters suggests going slowly with sex.
By waiting a while, one of two outcomes occur. The other may go away.
Such a person is not worth bothering with and would only be trouble in
the future. The other possibility
is the other will not mind too much.
Those that wait for sex for at least six month and maybe much longer may
also gain the respect of the other, who will understand the principles in this
discussion. This bodes well for
the relationship.
Marriage
is the arena where sexual desire can be worked through. It is fine as long as the spiritual
basis of marriage is intact. If not, sex becomes a subtle form of mutual
use or abuse ‑ mutual ego‑stroking, mutual rape, in a sense (see
the Rape article), and a kind of indulgence that takes
the partners further away from spirituality.
One
is here on earth to wake up, and to transform and develop oneself into a different kind
of being that is not subject to the forces of death and decay that are the fate
of most. Regular sex and
especially casual sex and romance tend to pull us away from this purpose.
CHILDREN
Many
people have children for incorrect reasons. This is a major cause of problems between parents and children. Common reasons for having children
include:
á To Ôenrich' oneÕs life. This often means oneÕs life is empty of meaning and that having children will somehow improve the situation. It may, but one may tend to make the childÕs life empty as well, or live through the child which causes conflicts.
á
Feeling
that one is 'supposed to', and will be the oddball if one does not.
á
To
carry on the family line or name.
á
To
hold a marriage together that is in difficulty.
á
To
have someone to take care of you in oneÕs old age.
á
To
see what one can produce (good looks, sports ability, intelligence, etc).
á
To
have power and control over a helpless little child (to have someone to push
around).
á
To
regain a sense of innocence by stealing it from a child.
In
summary, many people have children to extend their ego, like buying a new car
or house. This does violence to
the child, who is basically an object of use by the parents. The temptation to 'use' a child for
egotistical purposes is almost insurmountable, because the child is so
helpless, malleable and dependent.
Here are a few common misconceptions about children, according to Roy
Masters:
á
One must clarify oneÕs meaning when stating that
children love their parents. It is a specific type of love that must not
be confused with the love of the Creator, for example.
Children
are DEPENDENT upon parents. They
need their parents, so they cling and do as they are told. Need and
clinging are not love. It is true
that uncorrupted children have a sweet and helping nature, but this is not the
same as mature love.
á
Parents
often confuse their ego need for their children with love. This need, which they call 'love',
violates and destroys the souls of the children. It is like the 'love' that the wolf feels for the
sheep - they are his potential meals. In many sick ways, parents feed off of or live
through their children, draining them of their initiative and even their
physical health. This results in
juvenile delinquency, promiscuity, depression, illness, drugs, teen suicide and
other problems of children.
A vicious cycle
commonly occurs. Most children are
used and psychologically violated by their parents and others, often all in the
name of love. They grow up
confused ,believing that this abuse is love. They do unto their children what was done unto them.
Corrupting
the souls of children usually occurs by a combination of spoiling and
cruelty. Some parents may use one
of these methods more than the other. Either tends to destroy the child's
sense of values and self-esteem.
Mothers tend to spoil children more than fathers because women are
physically weaker and emotionally closer to the children. However, there are plenty of
exceptions.
Cruelty
or spoiling reduce the childÕs sense of control over his or her own life. This is the hidden goal of excessive
praise or criticism. The childÕs
reduced control is the parentÕs increase in control. The child then becomes more subject to the parentÕs neurotic
or even psychotic value system.
Also, parents are able to steal the childÕs life force when the child is
out of control. The same
mechanisms operate in school, at work and in interpersonal and political
realms.
Oedipal Complexes. Many fathers are sexually attracted to
their daughters. Some flirt or molest
their daughters, while others become distant or cold to fend off or run away
from their sexual desires for their daughters. Mothers can react to their sons in similar ways. This often damages parent-child
relationships in unusual ways.
Once again, becoming aware of the problem is the first step to resolving
these conflicts.
Taking
out oneÕs frustration on oneÕs children.
Parents who resent their spouse often take out their frustration on the
children who are easier targets.
This has a castrating effect on males. On daughters it produces low self-esteem, depression and
often hatred of men or even of women.
In
particular, mothers who unconsciously resent their husbands subtly deprecate
male children, while building up the egos of their daughters. This produces the 'princess' trait in
women, and it often produces wimpy or violent men.
If
a parent does not receive love from a spouse, often he or she, usually, will
unconsciously accept the dependence of the children as love, and thereby rob
them of their selfhood.
Parents
are not supposed to mold children in their image. True love allows a
child to be free to grow up strong and self-assured. This will only happen when father and mother are fulfilled
in their own lives and clear about their own relationships, particularly the
relationship with the Creator.
This is always the most important relationship to work on and with.
If
one does not already have children, think hard about oneÕs motives for wanting
children. If one already has
children, realize that the real purpose of having children is to provide a
stable and happy home for a developing soul until that soul can live on its
own.
Having
children is also a powerful way to learn about oneself. Unfortunately, many parents would
rather 'put out the light' in the children than listen and learn from
them. Parents need lots of
patience with children. This is
the beginning of love. As with
man-woman relationships, parents' love for children must include
protecting children from the parents' own selfishness, so that only love comes
through.
CONCLUSIONS ABOUT ROY MASTERÕS MATERIAL
Some
people will find the above rather negative. However, to find the truth, sometimes one must look at all
sides of an issue. So I hope this article
does not seem negative at all. By
seeing what is not love, we move closer to
understanding what is real love.
Then relationships can become a great source of joy, power and goodness
in the world.
Also,
as oneÕs personal and interpersonal relationships improve, I have not doubt our
community, national and international relationships will similarly improve,
creating a more stable and safe world in which to live. In fact, I believe that every effort to
create peace, love and prosperity for all in the world will fail - until more
people learn how to create peace and love in their own small world of personal,
interpersonal and spiritual relationships.
OTHER INTERESTING TOPICS ABOUT
RELATIONSHIPS:
1. FAITHFULNESS IN RELATIONSHIPS
This is an interesting topic. If I may be a bit philosophical, men
need to be faithful in a sexual way, in most cases. This is more of a problem for most men than for most women.
Women
need to be faithful in a slightly different way – to keep loving their
mates, no matter if some of the fire or love has gone out of the
relationship. By staying with the
mate, it can often be revived, but many women simply lose interest and turn
their attention to raising the children, buying gifts for themselves and
others, or other pursuits. This is
also a form of adultery.
Neither
partner should keep loving the other if there is abuse, particularly physical
violence, but also severe emotional abuse or vampirism.
2. SPECIAL AND HOLY
RELATIONSHIPS
In
certain texts, a distinction is made between special relationships and holy
relationships. The former are
relationships based on fear, guilt or ego needs for security, control,
domination or possession. These
lead to unhappiness.
The
latter are relationships based on love that comes from within or from God. In other words, holy instants and holy
relationships are not about ÒgettingÓ anything from another. They are about giving love, which is our
essence. Seeking love outside
oneself, therefore, will always bring frustration.
Love,
in this context, is not a feeling, sexual attraction, security, nor is it
possessing another. It is allowing
the Love Of The Creator to flow to oneself and then out to others. First one must receive it in order to
give it.
To
give love however, one must first learn to receive it. Giving love without first receiving it
leads to burnout. Each partner
must respect the othersÕ level of fullness of the CreatorÕs love, and not
demand love. Love does not
compel. Love allows all things,
embraces all things, accepts all things, and by so doing overcomes and
transcends all things.
This
topic and approach to relationships is explored more in a separate article
entitled The Real Self.
3. LICENSED MARRIAGES ARE RELATIVELY
NEW
Licenses
give official permission to do something that is otherwise forbidden. Until 150 years ago, there were no
licensed marriages in America, and fewer in other nations as well. Marriage was an agreement between two
people that did not involve the government. Today this is called a common law marriage. The marriage agreement was written in
the family bible and that was about all.
The
first marriage license in America was supposedly issued after the Civil War to
a racially mixed couple. The
English Common Law, which was in force in America and still is to a degree,
forbade inter-racial marriage. In
order to marry, the couple sought special permission from the government.
The
concept of licensing marriages slowly grew in America. Government licenses offer certain legal
protections for partners, but also make the government a third party in the
marriage with certain rights.
For
example, if the government is involved in your marriage through a license and
birth certificates for your children, if someone reports that you are abusing
your children, the government can come into the home and remove the
children. Sadly, many common
behaviors can be considered abuse, even forcing a child to do homework. One may be presumed guilty until proven
innocent, and the incident goes on oneÕs permanent record, even if no
conviction takes place.
It
is a little odd to ask a bureaucratic agency, perhaps hundreds of miles away,
for permission to conclude a sacred contract between two people. Marriage licenses and birth
certificates may also allow the government to force you to vaccinate your
children, or force your children to have other questionable medical procedures
the government deems ÒgoodÓ. In
fact, recently the news reported that parents have lost their children to
foster care because they wanted their children to obtain alternative cancer
treatments and refused orthodox medical treatment for a childÕs cancer.
Giving
too much power to the state is something to think about before you run and get a
marriage license. I donÕt see the
need for it, although it may protect a spouse from debts, but not necessarily.
4. A TWO-STEP SYSTEM OF MARRIAGE
This
is another interesting topic about man-woman relationships. It is discussed in a separate, very interesting
article entitled A Two-Step Marriage Process.
It
is basically a two-step process to help a couple come together in a meaningful
relationship without risking having children, and giving any relationship a legalistic
type of framework for the protection of both participants. Please read this article if you are
considering a man-woman relationship at any age.
5. DEEP LOVING RELATIONSHIPS
This
topic concerns more esoteric aspects of man-woman relationships that will be of
interest to most people. Some of
the information borders on what is called tantra, an ancient yogic system of
relationships for healing.
However,
tantra today has been bastardized into a method to increase sexual pleasure,
and little else. Many books on the
subject are available in the book stores.
At one time it was more about healthy relationships and actually much
less about sexuality. Some of the
information is philosophical, and much is very practical. This topic is explored in two articles
on this website, Deep Loving Relationships – 1
and Deep Loving Relationships – 2.
6. RELATIONSHIPS VIEWED
ENERGETICALLY IN TERMS OF THE BODYÕS SEVEN ENERGY CENTERS
This
interesting topic views man-woman and possibly other relationships in terms of
the energetic interaction between the people. It classifies relationships into seven basic styles or
types. It can be a very helpful
article to help resolve certain issues and smooth your relationships. It is discussed in the article entitled
Love And Relationships – An Energetic View.
7. OTHER ARTICLES ABOUT
RELATIONSHIPS ON THIS WEBSITE
These
include:
Loving Versus
Destructive Relationships
Love, Will And Its
Relation To The Law Of Cause And Effect
Male-Female Blending
Exercises For Healing
The Facts
Of Life, Especially For Unmarried People
Sexual
Dysfunctions And Their Correction
Giving And The Life Of
Service
Survival Guide For Planet
Earth For Young People, Especially
How People Are
Influenced Mentally
Suckers or Energy Vampires
Versus Real Men And Women
Obstetrics And
Nutritional Balancing Science
Sexual Molestation And
Its Healing
Female Genital
Mutilation Is Real
Contraceptive Methods
And Your Health
Differences
Between Men And Women
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