GROUNDING AND CENTERING – CRITICAL NEEDS TODAY
by Dr.
Lawrence Wilson
©
February 2016, L.D. Wilson Consultants, Inc.
All information in this article is for educational
purposes only. It is not for the
diagnosis, treatment, prescription or cure of any disease or health condition.
Grounding
and centering are qualities of a human being that anyone can develop that will
be extremely useful for success in life.
Grounding is an
energetic aspect of a person. Most
people know of others whom they consider well-grounded. These people are often realistic,
practical, organized, and very present when you speak with them. They are firmly Òin their bodiesÓ.
Most readers
also know some people who seem to float through life, are often distracted,
spacy, Ògoing in three directionsÓ, or Ònot all thereÓ. These people may be described as
ungrounded.
On an
energetic level, those who are well-grounded have a large and healthy first
energy center. This is located
between the legs, and for those who can see it, it looks like a dress on a
person. In most people, this
center is small and undeveloped.
As one ages, it usually grows somewhat. The Pushing Down exercise is excellent to develop this
center.
Centering means that
oneÕs attention is always centered inside the body, more or less. This also causes a person to be more
realistic, more present and more grounded and attentive. People who are not centered in
themselves are usually more distracted, less present, more emotional and often
feel pulled in several directions at once. Centering and grounding are thus related to one another,
though they are not exactly the same.
SIGNS
AND SYMPTOMS OF LACK OF GROUNDING
Many
who need grounding and centering are unaware of their need for it. To see if you are in need of grounding
and centering, here is a short quiz:
1. Do you find yourself taking on more than
you can handle? Grounding and centering
has much to do with understanding your limits and boundaries. Ungrounded people are often unclear
about these.
2.
Do you find yourself stressed often? Taking on too much and avoiding areas of life you prefer not
to look at creates stress – often extreme stress.
3.
Do you engage in activities and/or thoughts that could be ways to escape the
unpleasant parts of your life?
These can be obvious escapes like alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, loud music
or unhealthy sex. However, they
can be subtle or socially acceptable diversions such as too much shopping or
excessive attention to family, friends or pets. They can include any preoccupation or activity that mainly
serves to distract a person from other areas of life that are not working well,
or that you would rather not deal with, or that you do not know how to
approach.
4.
Do you have trouble earning a living, or interacting with others to get what
you need to live, or working with others in jobs or similar situations? This can be a subtle sign that one is
ungrounded or uncentered.
5.
Do you have trouble in the sexual arena? By trouble, I mean confusion, getting involved with people
who do not really love you, promiscuity, pornography, prostitution, horror or
other imbalances in this area.
6.
Do you find yourself easily shaken, disturbed, distracted or forgetting your
tasks at hand when others are around? This is another common sign of a lack
of grounding and centering.
HOW
TO GROUND YOURSELF
Diet
and lifestyle. Care very well
for your body. Be sure to go to
bed by 9 PM every night, or at least most nights. Get plenty of rest and sleep and do not allow anyone or
anything to disturb your rest and your peace. This must include disciplining your children, your pets,
spouses and others so they do not disturb your rest. For example, do not allow unannounced visitors or phone
calls at late hours. I know this
is difficult for some in families, but it is well worth working to set up
systems that give you at least a measure of complete rest and peace.
If possible,
spend some time out of doors each day, near the earth, preferably in a rural,
quiet setting. Also, try to spend
time alone every day, and not on the telephone, but just with yourself. Work in some way with your hands or
feet, even typing or writing is good.
If possible, focus attention on the earth, not the scenery or
intellectual conversation or thoughts.
Deep
breathing. Another basic that is much more subtle is to remember to
breathe deeply. It is an exercise
that takes some unusual concentration for most people. Yet it has many health benefits. Stretch, yawn and sigh often. Stop what you are doing on a regular
basis and breathe. Doing it while
exercising is not enough. Now let
us discuss some other basics in more detail.
Sauna
therapy and coffee enemas. Using a near infrared light sauna is
extremely grounding. The reddish
heat lamps relax the nervous system and may stimulate the lower part of the
body. Coffee enemas and colonic
irrigation also tends to be grounding by focusing oneÕs energy on the lower
part of the body.
Sexuality. Most sexual activity is very
ungrounding. This does not mean
you must avoid it altogether, but stop thinking it is important for your life. Avoid anyone or any source of
information that tells you sex is important for your self esteem, your honor,
your health or anything else. This
does not mean that it has no benefits, but in terms of grounding, it is
harmful, always. It tends to send
energy upwards, instead of downwards, especially for women.
Walking. Walking slowly and deliberately is very
helpful for centering and grounding.
Think about your feet as you walk and send your energy into the earth
with each slow, deliberate step.
If helpful, imagine you are being pulled along when you walk by a magnet
hidden under the earth. Another
way is to imagine you weigh 500 pounds and each of your steps crushes the earth
beneath your feet. Another idea is
to imagine your foot is like a large suction cup that spreads out as it
attaches deep into the ground.
An ancient
walking method is at times called tai chi walking or chi-kung walking. Imagine that a wire or string is
connected to the crown of your head, holding up your head. Imagine the rest of your body hanging
loosely from this wire. This will
help you stand in a relaxed manner.
Bend both knees a little and stay low throughout your walk.
Place all
your weight on one foot. Lift the
other one slowly and step forward gently and firmly. Do not straighten the knee completely. If you do, your head will bob up, which
completely disconnects you from the earth. This is the opposite of what you are wanting to do. Keep your weight on the back foot when
you step forward. It will feel
uncomfortable at first, because most people fall into their steps. So practice this part a number of times
slowly until you can step forward without moving your weight forward.
Next, slowly
shift your weight forward and down onto the front foot. When all your weight is on the front
foot, you may then repeat the process, lifting the rear leg and taking your
next step. You must start very
slowly until this style of walking becomes a habit. Some do this instinctively or unconsciously.
Most people,
especially those who are not grounded, will have difficulty at first and it will
take time to master. It is well
worth the effort, however. This is
the way all animals move in the wild.
Observe your cat and you will notice this exact sequence of movement if
you look closely enough. It is a
survival mechanism for animals, as it allows them to test the ground before
they place their weight there. It
also helps their strength and balance.
Grounding is
often about Òtesting the groundÓ before you move forward in order to stay
strong and balanced. So this
technique is a metaphor for grounding as well as a useful way to move through
the world. Be sure you do not bob
your head up and down when you step, as most people do. This is the ÒGomer Pyle walkÓ, the
opposite of grounding.
Diet. Eat quality
food and maintain healthful eating habits. Eat simple, regular meals at regular intervals, sitting down
quietly when you eat and staying put for at least a few minutes after eating to
allow digestion to begin.
Certain
foods definitely assist grounding.
These include meats, eggs, some whole grains such as brown, all basmati
rice, blue corn chips and most whole grains. Avoid wheat and spelt, however, in all forms as these have
become inflammatory foods and are no longer as good. Cooked beans and root vegetables, along with all cooked
vegetables are also good. All yang
food is more grounding.
Avoid all
yin foods, as these tend to less grounding and centering. These include all sweets and sugars,
including all fruit and all fruit juices.
These are much less grounding.
In excess, they upset blood sugar, calcium metabolism, thyroid and
adrenal activity. Their negative
effects, however, go far beyond these.
They enhance or encourage the growth of yeast in the intestines, such as
candida albicans infection. These
organisms produce many toxic substances in the intestines, further ungrounding
and sickening the person who eats them.
Many young
people today can hardly keep their heads up, and cannot think straight, due to
their sugar and fruit consumption.
They donÕt realize how it is affecting their judgment and their
happiness. Instead, they walk
around in a kind of Brain Fog. We help many people with this
condition. In some cases, sugar is
the main problem. In other cases, too
much caffeine, other stimulants, spicy foods, not enough rest, copper toxicity,
other toxic metals and other nutritional imbalances must also be
addressed. However, eliminating
all sugars from the diet for several years, at least, is always helpful.
SIMPLIFY
YOUR LIFE
Besides
eating healthfully, other aspects of life can often be simplified. This does not mean sitting around the
house doing nothing. Quite the
opposite is true. Most successful,
busy people have mastered simplicity in their lives. This makes room to accomplish all that they do. Simplicity means slowing down, avoiding
distractions, and mainly letting go of people, things and activities that either
upset you or just waste your time.
Using
time wisely. Time is really all you have on this earth, and it passes
quickly, though it may not appear that way at times. Becoming grounded and centered may mean not wasting time and
energy on ideas, people, pleasures or projects that yield little return. This one factor often wastes years of peopleÕs
lives. For example, many people
spend a lot of time feeding the birds, talking to their friends about
unimportant matters, watching silly movies, checking Facebook, and so on.
Some women
and men love to spend their time shopping, either online or with the
crowds. This can be another huge
time waster that also upsets the delicate grounding system of the body. Ungrounded people often engage in
hundreds of time-wasting endeavors.
It is possible to work without overworking, to find simple solutions,
simple pleasures and easier ways of doing everything.
If you find
yourself doing these things or others that mainly waste time, you will need to
use self-discipline to stop yourself.
This is an ongoing process and requires time to reflect on your life so
you can see what you are doing and make adjustments often. At times, one wastes time due to a lack
of awareness of how best to spend oneÕs time. At other times time-wasting is an escape from responsibility
or willingness to see the truth about oneself or others.
Of course,
what one considers a waste of time, another may have the vision to see a great
potential. This is where vision
must balance grounding for a balanced and optimal personality. For example, healing illness by
carefully following a diet and doing coffee enemas every morning once seemed
like a waste of time or even insane to me. I learned, however, to know better.
Note that
time spent resting and sleeping is not a Ówaste of timeÓ. The body is often very active during
sleep, at times more so than during waking hours. For this reason, do not ignore feelings of fatigue. They may mean you are exhausted. They may also be alerting you that you
need to allow yourself more time for important nighttime rejuvenating activity.
Popularity
and grounding. Grounded and centered people are generally not the popular
and social ones. For women,
especially, becoming more grounded usually means not spending too much time on
prettying up the body, wearing sexy clothes to attract men, or fixing the hair
or other parts of the body with too much makeup.
Prettying up
the body tends to be very ungrounding for a woman, as is the attention she
receives for it. Plain is better,
although it wonÕt win the beauty contests. It will attract the grounded men who know that the women who
dress up, wear the high heels and the short skirts are not usually the best
partners or even dates, in part because they are not as grounded and often more
superficial.
This can be
an important factor, especially for teenagers and younger women who want to be
the center of attention, or at least want to become popular. As a general rule, the more popular a
person is, the more ungrounded they are.
This is why the movie stars often end up as drug addicts and suicide
cases. Their popularity and wealth
ungrounds them terribly and they simply cannot find their way through it, and
they finally become depressed and die young in most cases. Go the other way, if you are smart, and
you will likely succeed far better.
Money. Live below your means. This means realizing you donÕt need
most all things that people are taught to think they need. An old car is fine if it works. A small house is better than a larger
one, provided it suits you needs.
Old clothes are fine. Most
travel is not needed. The quest
for everything new, different and exciting is, itself, extremely ungrounding,
so try not to fall into that trap.
Instead, focus on staying centered and grounded. This will slowly bring with it a new
and different lifestyle and spiritual unfoldment unlike anything you have ever
experienced.
UP
AND OUT SPIRITUALITY
A
lack of grounding and centering often leads to an interest in
spirituality. This can be
extremely positive, provided one does not stay in a mindset some call Òup and
out spiritualityÓ. This approach
can be summarized by the phrase, ÒJust beam me up, Scottie.Ó
Up and out
spirituality starts with the idea that the planet is a horrible place, that one
deserves better and perhaps there was a mistake in coming here in the first
place. One wants out and spiritual
exercises promise the way. Many
meditations, affirmations, yoga classes, extreme diets and other practices can
be used to forget this place and do oneÕs best to ascend out of it as fast as
possible. These meditations
usually teach one to visualize leaving the body and imagining a happier, safer
place. While they are not all bad,
they are easily overdone. The
person does not understand why, in spite of all the practice, life does not
improve much and may get worse. It
is because they are becoming less grounded here and that is the hidden intent.
Up and out
spirituality is basically a new twist on the idea that one is a victim of the
world around us. It is often based
on anger at the world and holding on to fixed ideas about how others ÒshouldÓ
behave. It is a first start on the
spiritual path, and the way most people begin the spiritual search. However, it is important to move on
quickly to a more grounded approach to spirituality or one will not improve and
may get worse. A lot of so-called
new age churches tend to teach this type of spirituality.
Ungrounding
or Òup and outÓ meditations are actually extremely dangerous today because
grounding is so important. The
only mental exercise I have experienced that works properly to ground a person
is described in an article on this website entitled The
Pushing Down Exercise (formerly called Meditation For Healing). This is absolutely the best exercise to
enhance grounding.
EMOTIONS
ARE OFTEN UNGROUNDING
The human
emotions are often helpful to get one moving and prevent idleness and
boredom. However, most of the time
indulging your emotions is very ungrounding. Logic is far more grounding, for example. Even idle emotions that mainly distract
you or keep you in the past or future can be a huge time waster.
For example,
the word resentment means in Latin
Òto feel again and againÓ.
Resentment is a very damaging emotion for this very reason that usually
takes a person away from the present moment and is thus very ungrounding.
Anger
tends to be very ungrounding.
The answer is to forgive everyone and everything over and over as long
as you live. It allows you to let
go and move on. If you do not know
how to forgive, just ask for help in learning to forgive. Help will come if you ask persistently.
Forgiving
does not mean that others may take advantage of you, or that you now condone
their behavior, or that you will forget the incident. But it means you will let it go and move on. You will not get upset and ungrounded
every time you think of this person or this situation. This is wisdom.
DOUBTING
TOO MUCH WILL UNGROUND YOU
Doubting
oneself all the time is very ungrounding.
In fact, it is a way that is used by some people I call energy vampires
to upset and unground others. They
plant doubts in your mind. You can
watch this happen in the media as politicians use this weapon to upset their
enemies by planting doubt in the peopleÕs minds. It is very effective and pernicious, and works especially
among people who are unsure of themselves and their concepts in some way.
A remedy for
this is to Ôdoubt your doubtÕ rather than try to suppress your doubt. Suppressing doubt usually does not
work. It results in false
positivity that, in fact, just covers up for the doubt and negativity that has
become intolerable for the person.
Instead, try doubting your doubt.
You see,
doubting or weighing options is essential. The question is what to doubt. By doubting your doubts, you can in some instances turn
things around. For example, you
might doubt that you need to follow a careful diet to become and maintain your
health. You could let this fester
inside and confuse you. A solution
is to turn things around and doubt your doubt by saying you doubt that eating
poorly will build health.
Essentially, this is to help break a cycle of doubting that holds many
people back. Doubting your doubts
acts as a reality check in many cases and can keep you more centered.
MORE
ON THE PUSHING DOWN EXERCISE
Downward
flowing energy is grounding and centering. This is a great secret. The pushing down exercise sends, also called the down force exercise, sends energy
downward through the body. This,
in itself, is extremely grounding and centering, and thus highly recommended
for all adults and even for older children who are often in need of more
grounding.
This
exercise also helps ground one because it can help a person learn not to
react. It will also help one let
go if one has reacted to a situation and become ÒupÓset, ÒupÓtight, and mixed
ÒupÓ by it. This feature, alone,
makes this exercise worth doing every day even if you donÕt like it.
Yang
is grounding. The pushing
down exercise also makes the body more yang in Chinese medical terms. This is also very grounding and
centering.
NATURAL
HEALING
Removing your toxic metals. All of the toxic metals tend to
unground the body. For example:
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Mercury makes the mind
more active and can cause it to spin out of control like the mad hatters of
Alice In Wonderfland.
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Copper toxicity
tends to enhance many emotional reactions and is a very ungrounding mineral for
a lot of reasons
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Lead dulls the senses, which can be
ungrounding in some ways.
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Cadmium irritates the adrenal glands,
kidneys and other organs and glands. It can lead to upset and violence.
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Nickel can cause severe depression,
which is also ungrounding because it is unrealistic.
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Aluminum is extremely ungrounding. It is a lighter weight metal that
damages the memory function, in particular.
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Iron toxicity can contribute to
anger and stubbornness that is very ungrounding, and very common.
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Other
toxic metals are also very ungrounding basically because they distort the mind
in various ways.
These and other toxic metals are inside most everyoneÕs bodies today to
some extent. Removing them usually
causes a person to calm down, and become much more grounded and sane. This is our consistent experience. It is just one of the great benefits of
removing all of them using nutritional balancing science. Chelation therapy, by contrast, does
not remove them deeply enough to have the same effects in many cases.
Toxic
chemicals
that are in most peopleÕs bodies also need to be removed, as most of them also
irritate the glands and organs and also unground and yinnize the body.
Among the
most ungrounding items are medical drugs and recreational drugs – all of
them. For example, pain killers ,
almost by definition, can unground a person so that he or she will feel less
pain. Many medical and over the
counter drugs also are toxic for the mind and unground a person for this
reason. To be grounded, avoid all
unnecessary medical drugs and all recreational drugs, alcohol and others.
Bodywork. Deep
bodywork such as Rolfing, structural integration, foot reflexology, and perhaps
Feldenkreis work and others tend to be more grounding. Acupuncture is less so, and any therapy
that unhinges the body from the earth can be ungrounding such as aromatherapy,
dance, art, music and even yoga.
These can be okay if one stays conscious, but a rule they are not nearly
as good for grounding, at least, as a very deep massage or Rolfing session.
The point
here is that all the bodies are somewhat ill and ungrounded. Spending the time and money to heal the
body deeply with food, rest, healthy lifestyles and at times, deep bodywork, is
very helpful for grounding, in general.
It is far wiser than thinking you will be happier by taking more
vacations, buying more clothes, meeting more people or other common activities.
GROUNDING,
CENTERING AND THE ENERGY CENTERS
Grounding
and centering, in part, refer to the quality and health of the first energy center of the body. This subtle energy center is sometimes
also called the root center. It is located just above the perineum,
which is the area between the rectum and the genital organs.
A person who
is grounded and usually one who is centered has this center at least partially
active or open. Those who are not
grounded often have this energy center less developed.
This center
connects a person with the earth, in physical terms. However, in metaphorical terms, however, it means the person
is present in the physical world, at least fairly comfortable in the physical
reality or world, and has a good sense of self or ego strength, sometimes also
called self-esteem. These are
among its many important qualities.
Other
qualities associated with a strong and open first center are good survival
skills – how to make ends meet financially, and how to interact with
others and with life, in general, in order to survive.
This may
sound simple, but many millions around the world do not have a good idea how to
Òmake itÓ in the world, which means how to get and hold a job, how to get along
with others, especially those who pay the bills, how to buy a car or a house or
some other basic survival tools, how to eat well and care for oneself in a
basic way, and many other survival skills.
One reason
for this is that the education system in the Western world has not been
teaching these skills for years.
Instead, they focus mostly on academic information rather than more
practical skills to the students.
Another
factor is poor parenting in some cases.
Some children are not disciplined, not taught how to earn a living, or
how to save money and deal with life.
Another
factor is a low level of energy and health, and especially problems in the
pelvic area of women that literally can impair the opening and development of
this center. This is usually due
to too much sex, though it could be due to too much sexual suppression,
molestation at a young age, rape, or some other aberrations involving the
sexual organs, in most cases.
These are causes of lack of development of the first center.
For
development, opening this center is absolutely necessary, as it is the
foundation for the opening of all the other ones that are above it. For more on the first energy center,
read The Energy Centers on this website.
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