WOMEN AND MEN, AND THEIR DIFFERENCES
by Lawrence Wilson, MD
Ó March 2010, The Center For Development
Women and men are quite differently designed, in some ways. This is generally denied today in an effort to equalize the rights and opportunities of both sexes. This is helpful in many ways, especially to the women in the business world.
However, it is wrecking havoc on women’s bodies and their ability to bear healthy children, in particular. This article addresses this important topic so that hopefully the laws, the customs and the general approach to men and women can be changed for the better to help women to be healthier.
The main difference is that women are designed for reproduction of the species. This is clear to anyone who looks closely. Only women can bear the children and nurse them. A more subtle difference is that women generally prefer caring for babies, which is a full-time job, at first, and not the most pleasant of jobs in terms of waking up at odd hours to nurse, changing smelly diapers, dealing with crying spells, vomit and other annoying things.
Another difference that is clear to anyone who cares to look is that women are less physically strong. Their muscular development is simply not as good as most men’s, even that of men who are not that physically fit. This is important and it occurs for a reason. The female hormones, which determine all the secondary sex characteristics of men and women, tend to build more fat and less muscle in women. As a result, women have more body fat, in general, and less lean muscle mass than men. This is not always true, of course, but it is in general. When it is not at all the case, the woman usually has a hormone imbalance that makes her look more like a man in terms of muscular development and often attitudes as well.
The same hormonal differences make men more aggressive, more sexually oriented in most cases, more active physically, and often not as kind and sweet as most women can be. This is another important set of differences, and no judgment is meant with any of these. It is just a fact. Women are also much more interested in spiritual matters, as a rule, although men often succeed much better at them than women, also due to another difference between them.
Women tend to be more multi-taskers while men tend to be far more focused and one-pointed in their efforts. This makes men less congenial, perhaps, but when they set their mind to a task, such as meditating or doing yoga or doing anything, they are often far more diligent, disciplined and therefore successful at it than the women, in general, of course. However, this is a real difference in the way men and women are designed and it is not simply a “cultural bias” or some prejudice, as some see it today.
Men, also, are not as oriented toward babies, in particular. Many men find them sort of odd or strange, helpless little creatures that cry all the time when needing to be fed or the diaper changed, a not totally pleasant task. This is not usually men’s favorite activity, and a difference, again, between men and women. Women, in particular some coppery women, actually delight in caring for babies, which they see as extensions of themselves in many ways. They enjoy mothering children, meaning caring for them in special ways that promote the child’s development as a human being. This includes teaching them basic skills, basic manners, basic communication skills and so on.
Later on, the men often take more interest in the children as they grow older to about 8 or 9 and their brains are more developed and their bodies are more able to do more physical activities and mental ones as well. This is also a natural order of things that is often denied today.
As a result of all the above, women are generally more physically delicate, though this does not mean they are “weaker” or inferior in any way at all. It simply means they are not as capable of physical exertion, nor are they usually quite as interested unless they have hormone imbalances. It also means they are more vulnerable to injury, accidents, physical harm and danger when they insist on acting “just like the boys”.
While both men and women are extremely nutritionally depleted and toxic, women have the added problem that they are often pushing themselves physically far beyond what they are capable of in order to compete and keep up with the men. This is the real problem today.
WHAT IS NEEDED IN MY VIEW
This will sound very politically incorrect. Women need to know they are different from men, not the same. They need to know from the time they are born that they are here to raise themselves and bear children if they wish, which is not an option for men.
They need to know they are not weaker, but their muscle structure and bone structure and physical design is not the same as men’s and they need quieter activities. This is the main difference. Men may be less social, generally, but some like the social scene as much as women, as human beings are social animals. The women, however, need not compete, need not excel at sports or even academics.
Women need more relaxation and rest, better nutrition and more attention to their health if they are to bear healthy children and raise them properly. Otherwise, the epidemic of autism, ADD, ADHD, birth defects and worse, will only continue and become worse. This, I see , is the main task in the future for the entire world if we are to raise a generation of children that is healthier, instead of sicker than the one before it.
WOMEN AND MEN IN THE WORKPLACE
Men and women often work differently. This can be an advantage to working together, or a definite disadvantage. This article outlines a few of the differences in perception between men and women that may be used to advantage. Most are obvious, but sometimes helpful to recall in work situations. This can help men and women to work together better, and this is the purpose of this article.
Women tend, overall, to be more people-oriented and less task-oriented. Men, in contrast, are often, though not always, ore task-oriented. This means they care a little less about who is involved, and more about what is involved.
Results: Men may stick with a task better than women, though, once again, this is a generalization. Women may stick with a client better than men, though again this is generalization. In some businesses, sticking with the tasks is most critical. In others, sticking with the clients is most critical.
HANDLING PROBLEMS AT WORK
Men are generally more likely to want to solve problems by themselves, alone. Women often prefer doing it together, as a group. Often, women prefer to negotiate, while men just prefer moving ahead at full speed with less negotiating.
Results: Once again, some business issues require teamwork and negotiating. Others require that you send a person out to do the job, and the job gets done by one person working alone. There is no “best way” to work. The idea here is just to point out differences so that a business can make the best use of its personnel, and so that employees and everyone else will be as satisfied, happy and successful as possible.
HANDLING PERSONAL PROBLEMS
Women tend to want to talk about problems, often excessively if they are not sure what to do about it. Men, on the other hand, often keep problems to themselves, often suppressing the desire to speak to others and trust others with personal information.
Results: This is often an issue in the workplace. Some do not want to share personal information at all, while others want to share too much. It can cause significant friction in some cases. Understanding the differences between men and women, generally, may help somewhat.