LOVE, AND ITS RELATION TO WILL AND THE LAW OF CAUSE AND EFFECT
by Lawrence Wilson, MD
© August 2011, The Center For Development
Love is a large subject that is discussed in several articles on this website such as Loving Versus Destructive Relationships and others. In this article I wish to discuss a special definition of love. I hope it will not seem complicated, as it is really quite simple
LOVE IS THE WILL ALIGNED PROPERLY
Love, in the context of this article, is not about romance or emotions at all. Instead, love has to do with how a person uses his or her will. If the will is like an arrow or a spear, love occurs when you point the arrow in a helpful direction or use it with good intent.
Pointing the arrow or spear in any other direction, meaning directing your will sloppily or trying to deceive, cheat, beat out or harm others, is not loving.
Ask yourself if you use your will to help others, or do you try to upstage or even hurt others in subtle ways? Do you help even those you do not care for, or do you pick and choose whom you will “love” and help?
Parents, for example, must or at least should choose to assist their own children first. However, good parents also choose to help their children’s friends because that is how this type of love works.
In business, do you truly love your clients as you would love a friend or family member, or are they just a source of money or business for you? This is an important consideration for any business person.
In a marriage, do you love the other person enough to really care what they need, and what they feel, or do you just cohabitate, have sex, and eat meals together? All these are questions about this deeper kind of loving that has to do with one’s intent and how one uses the will.
One might say that love is the intent or will to radiate a special energy into the world and into all others.
WHAT IS HATRED OR LACK OF LOVE?
In this context, hatred is not exactly the opposite of love. Hate is just a different use of your will in which you are not careful about how you think, feel and act. As a result, you may harm yourself (self-hatred), or harm another. This can happen by accident or carelessness, or it could be intentional. No matter which it is, it will, in turn, negatively affect you because you are in constant relationship with all beings.
THIS KIND OF LOVE IS A DECISION YOU MUST MAKE ALONE
It has nothing to do with how people treat you, whether they like you or hate you, or how fortunate, wealthy, healthy, beautiful or skilled you are. This is a critical fact about it. The decision can be made today, now, no matter how young or old you are, without waiting to find that special partner, without waiting until you have some money, or better health, or a clear mind, or anything else. If you are reading these words, you can also make the decision to use your will to love others properly.
In my experience, the decision must come first. Then the feelings of love and being loved will follow. Do not be misled by thinking that feelings much come first.
THIS TYPE OF LOVE IN YOUR HEART AND MIND IS TRANSFORMATIVE
This decision will move a person forward in life faster than anything imaginable. This is also a very important principle. Other uses of the will do not move one forward as fast, and in fact are far more dangerous, in terms of possibly leading one off course.
THIS LOVE CONTROLS AND CHANNELS THE WILL
Love and will must join in harmony. People who have a strong will, especially, must align it with this kind of love, or they will tend to harm themselves or others. Those who are very loving but do not have a strong driving force behind it need to develop the will and then they will progress fast.
Will is more masculine, generally, and yang in nature, while love is more feminine or yin in nature or quality. One needs a blend of these two. Love and will are also a pair in other ways. For example, a poorly developed will can be partially offset by a very loving intent that almost functions like the will. The difference is that love has no force behind it all by itself. It is mainly a thought, not an action.
In the same way, a highly developed will can help a person who needs to develop the loving side of the personality. For example, a man who is very driven and hard-working usually has a strong will. If he applies that will productively, that is a way to get in touch with real love, even if he is not consciously a “loving person”. This is an interesting thought to consider.
A LOVING INTENT AND HEALING
Love, meaning the correct use of the will, tends to heal all things. This is because it sets up an energy flow from you outward and downward, that has a healing effect on your body and on that of others. Also, this type of love sets down or establishes a positive intent for every thought, word and deed for you and for others.
One could say, in this regard, that love heals, and all else causes illness and death. Although this is a simplification and one must be careful of the word love, this is true at one level. Remember that love, as the word is used in this article, means the proper use of the will. It has nothing to do with sex, romance, family, friends or other popular ideas.
Aligning love and will. Love heals and the will impedes health, as a general rule. However, the two together heals even better when combined correctly. The head is associated with will, but this is only in language and not in reality. The heart is associated with love, but this is totally false, since the heart is a pump. It is true that the “seat of the soul”, which is the connection with the etheric body, is located in the middle of the chest, but this is not the same as love. People often feel certain emotions in the chest, but this has to do with the fourth chakra, which again is very different than saying that love is of the heart. That is what people mean, however, when they say it. They mean they can feel the fourth chakra spinning faster, or opening or relaxing, or something like this. This has to do with the chakra system, written about in a separate article.
In fact, both will and love are of the mind and nowhere else. This is another important point.
LOVE AND WILL ARE A PAIR THAT ONE MUST DEVELOP IN ORDER TO GROW IN SPIRITUAL POWER
This is the most important point. How to do this is part of nutritional balancing science. For example, to develop the will, following a rather rigid diet and lifestyle is helpful. Even remembering to take supplements and do a coffee enema is helpful. Learning to overcome healing reaction without shrinking back in fear is helpful as well.
To develop love, we encourage everyone to take on a project of some kind that you do from love. For many womenm it is raising a child or several of them. This does develop love to a degree. The trouble with this project is it is so demanding and most women, along with men, are so unprepared for the task that they lose their loving focus quickly and just become “parents”, which is a different role. A parent is more of a protector, guide, and provider. A pure lover just loves the child as he or she is. This is much harder to do, in fact, and takes much more work. The reason is that one must love the child directly and completely, even if the child is not doing what one wishes and even if the child is turning out very differently than one thinks the child should turn out. Also, loving does not mean not disciplining the child. This is so complex to know when to intervene in love or so-called “tough love” that it is an almost impossible task without specific guidance at all times. It is something that good parents wrestle with the entire time they are raising a child.
A simpler and often better project is some kind of work or even some kind of study project. One may decide to learn as much as one can about a subject, for example, or to write a big book on a subject of interest to others.
You see, the work or study cannot be for “selfish” purposes. It must be a chore, so to speak, in order to develop this quality of love. The reason is that this kind of love is not selfish at all. It is about reaching out to others and about reaching up toward one’s spiritual guidance in certain unselfish ways to ask for what is best at all times, even if that means some personal suffering or even if it means ego destruction, perhaps better termed personal death. By this I do not mean death of the body in most cases. I mean ego death or what may be termed deep embarrassment, self-abnegation, self-denial, poverty, etc. This is what is meant by personal death in this context.
LOVE AND WILL ARE THE TWO FORCES IN THE ENTIRE UNIVERSE. THERE ARE NO OTHERS. THEY COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER AND FEED UPON EACH OTHER IN A SYNERGISTIC RELATIONSHIP
Love, as explained earlier, is the motive force in the universe that extends itself outward toward all things and all creatures in the universe, including, of course, all human beings. Will is the human response to love. This is the basic arrangement. It is a yin and yang arrangement with love being the yang force, interestingly, and will the yin force. We think of the them as the opposite, at times, but that is only because love is misdefined in human terms as being a slavish or sentimental yearning for sex or attention or something else. This is not love, but attachment, an even more yin force that is not really a force at all. So, once again, there are only two forces, that of love and the human response of will.
THE FORCE OF LOVE IS ALWAYS STRONGER THAN THE FORCE OF WILL, BUT WILL GROWS SLOWLY AS A PERSON DEVELOPS HIMSELF OR HERSELF
Will is the weaker force, as it is dispersed or more yin. Love is concentrated more so it is stronger and more yang. This is a hard distinction to appreciate now but it will become apparent to you as time moves on. You are feeling the current of life, or love.