by Lawrence Wilson, MD
© October 2011, The Center For Development, Inc.
Too often, women today try to do it all – play mother, wife, full-time worker, cook, housekeeper, lover, sports enthusiast and more. They become so exhausted, as a result, that many die young of cancer and other diseases. Women today need to use common sense, not try to do too much, and above all, conserve their energy. Otherwise they burn out as fast or even much faster than many men. In other words, women are not supermen. They are just women who need to rest and relax like everyone else.
Children’s problems. One result of women becoming nutritionally depleted is the worsening epidemic of birth defects. This is very sad, and getting worse every day. Also, once they are born, children are much more commonly afflicted with such disorders as autism, a horrible loss of a child’s mind and body. Other problems include Attention Deficit Disorder or ADD, hyperactivity, learning disorders of all kinds, childhood cancers that are becoming frighteningly common, and other serious problems such as depression, suicide and more. This is truly a shame and, in our experience, usually, if not always, preventable.
WOMEN’S ANGER TODAY
A challenge for women today is coming into their own power in a way that is not angry or competitive with men. This is a lot harder than it may seem. It is especially hard for those raised in single-parent homes or homes in which the fathers were not high quality men, or if their mothers were angry tyrants or sheepish and slavish to their husbands or boyfriends, in some cases. This article may help some women with the arduous task of becoming fully mature, which means not angry at all, just present and strong in their own right.
In order to do this, women must let go of their anger at their fathers. This is the key, as I understand it. This is very hard, since most fathers were and are not ideal human beings and men, and many were just plain rotten or just penises, as some of the ladies are wont to call them. This is always a demeaning way to refer to a man, by the way, even if he just raped his wife and beat her. Men are men, as I have learned lately, whether or not they are ideal or not. It is important for women to stop putting their fathers down, no matter what they did or do, or how they act or how stupid or mean they are. Stop it, ladies, and you will move forward faster.
The reason is that repeating the lie that your father was just a penis sort of sweetens the bitterness, just like adding sugar to bitter chocolate sweetens the bitterness. However, underneath, the bitterness remains. Don’t go this route, ladies. It does not work.
Instead, attempt to see the face of Christ in everyone. That is the teaching of Jesus, a man, yes, but a God man. That means he overcame his earthly desires to such as extent that he can be called a God man, not simply a man. Learn to see the face of Christ in your father, even if it was and is buried beneath layers of trauma, horror, and disgusting behavior. This is a challenge for all women that I am giving with this statement.
MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT
Today, many psychologists and medical authorities want us to believe that men and women are the same in terms of their emotional, intellectual and even some physical capabilities. This is not true. It is not discriminatory to discuss the fact that due mainly to hormonal differences, women are thankfully not built the same as men. For this reason, women will never be the “equal” of men, and they should not be. They should be themselves, which is not equal or unequal.
Women tend to be better than men in some areas, and they have some weaknesses that most men do not have. This is an essential truth that I believe needs to be taught today to all women and to men, as well.
For those who doubt this, the medical evidence is overwhelming. Women are far more prone to some diseases such as thyroid imbalance, depression and others. Men have more heart attacks and certain other diseases. Blood test values are different for men and women, as are urine test values.
Hair mineral test values also reveal that women tend to have a significantly slower oxidation rate than men, in general. Women tend to have more copper in their tissues, while men tend to have more zinc in their tissues, although just measuring the zinc and copper levels in the hair is not enough to accurately measure this. Many other physiological differences have been noted between men and women in countless studies around the world. Anyone who denies this has not read this medical literature.
Among the ancients, they knew that woman has a quality that is called more yin in Chinese medical terminology. Men, by contrast are more yang. these are really physics concepts. Yin means softer, cooler, more expanded and open-minded, more passive, and more sluggish and often more ill. Men are warmer, more aggressive, more contracted in their thinking and actions, and less open-minded. However, men move faster, are better coordinated, in general, stronger and tougher in some ways. This is what is meant by more yin or more yang.
WOMEN’S SPECIAL QUALITIES
In addition to letting go of their anger toward their fathers, women need to be aware of, understand and exploit certain qualities or attributes that are their birthright and that are better than men. The reason is not to compete with men, though they must do that in the workplace, for example. the reason is so that women can be proud to be women, rather than compare themselves to men.
Too often, women are not taught about these qualities and so they do not develop them further. Here are some examples.
1. More interested in their health. In America, for example, about 75% of doctor visits are by women. Interest in health is a traditional quality of women. It is due to many facts, including:
Į Women are, at times, more delicate than men.
Į Women bear the children and must usually raise them, as well.
Į Women also traditionally are more oriented toward raising, gathering and cooking food. This is related to one’s health although one would not know this by the behavior of many modern women.
Į Women are much more interested in their appearance, and most learn this is related to their health.
2. Able to bear children. This, of course, is just one amazing ability of women. This is another major advantage women have over men. Yet in modern society this special ability is so denigrated and often totally ignored by women and their husbands. The ability to bear the young is, at one level, a fantastic opportunity. At another level, it is a great responsibility and burden. Women too often do not want either of these, sadly.
Instead, too many women want to be childless like a man, meaning ignorant, stupid about their health and their lifestyles, and ignorant about their body’s abilities in this area. This is a shame. It matters not if the woman decides to bear a child. The capability is still there.
This also means or implies that if a woman ever intends to become a mother, she needs to understand the requirements to bear a healthy child, or she risks her life and that of her child. This is not taught to young girls and women, and is one of the main reasons for so many problems of children today. This is perhaps one of the worst failings of the modern public school system, the medical profession, the public health authorities such as the Surgeon General, as this position is called, as well as an important problem of parenting young girls and teenagers.
Not only does the nutritional and physical health of a mother affect her ability to produce healthy children, but her psychological and emotional health also affect the growing fetus and the health of her children.
Even a mothers’ spiritual beliefs can affect her child dramatically. Many babies are born rather confused because their mothers are conflicted and not mature emotionally and spiritually. If a young woman realizes that her nutrition, her emotions, her thoughts and her attitudes are important for her future, she may take more time to evaluate them and correct them.
3. Able to feed the young. This is another unique quality of women. While some say that a man could breast feed, I have never really seen it in practice. To nourish a baby is a very special quality, indeed. Their young bodies are tender and delicate, and human breast milk is the only food that is really suited to their needs, although many survive on substitutes.
Once again, too many women do not understand their ability and responsibility in this area of life. Instead, they love their breasts as sex symbols, ways to attract men, methods of gaining sexual pleasure and so on. Meanwhile, when asked to breastfeed, many cannot because the milk quality is poor, there is not enough, the child rejects it as inferior and other problems arise such as mastitis or others.
It may sound old-fashioned to say this, but there is no substitute for breast milk, and some day medicine will realize it. Goat milk works, but cows milk is not that good. But none is near to human breast milk. If you value your children, breast feed then for at least 2 years, and perhaps for 3 years.
Giving babies anything other than fresh, unpasteurized breast milk just causes digestive difficulties, food allergies, leaky gut syndrome, and other immune imbalances and other health problems for babies. It also disturbs the natural bonding between mother and child that is important for future development, though this is likely less important than the nutritional aspects of the problem.
4. More inclusive. This is a more yin quality of circling the wagons, for example, including all people in her world, wanting to be accepted by all, respected by all, and to partner with all people to make the world a better place. This is what is meant by more inclusive. In other words, women tend to have more interest in people for their own sake, and in socializing, meaning getting to know people better.
However, this quality leads to problems for women. Many are too willing to compromise to be accepted, for example, moreso than most men. Some are all too willing to please to keep the peace, for example, and many do not like confrontation and rejecting and firing others at jobs, for example. They may also feel sorry for people who should not be felt sorry for, and other exaggerations of being inclusive.
So the quality of inclusiveness, a very yin quality, is a double-edged sword for women that cuts both ways, so to speak. A woman must understand this quality well if she is to use her talents wisely in the world of men. In this sense, women must watch out to know who are their real friends, because many people are not friends as their values are improper and they are bad and dangerous influences. A woman must learn this and then act accordingly, even though it hurts a little or even a lot.
5. A softness and gentleness. This is not just due to their weaker muscles, although part of it is due to fear of being beaten up or raped. However, women are built more fragile than men and this gives them a certain sensitivity or gentle quality. This, too, is a double-edged sword that cuts both ways. Its major benefit is that women often can see the simpler and gentler side of a conflict, for example. On the other hand, women may not be willing to stand up and fight as well as most men can because they are too sensitive to criticism, perhaps, or just not as strong and hardened as men.
Unfortunately, some women are even trapped by this quality. They simply cannot stand up for what is right, and instead they back away from conflict and may sulk in anger, fear and depression instead of moving ahead fearlessly.
6. Better communicators. I am not sure about this one. Women are often more sensitive, so they may communicate their feelings better than most men. However, many women are not very good at confronting and telling the truth even if it hurts them to do so. True communication requires a certain forthright and blistering honesty that some women lack or are afraid of as it seems offensive. This is why many women support liberal causes such as political correctness. It just “feels” better, even if it is not really better and is really a scam and lie.
Also, better communication skills can mean better at abusing them. Women must strictly avoid using this skill or ability to gossip, to chatter endlessly on the computer or phone, or even to harm others with innuendo and divisive conversation. These are also traditional “feminine” values in most societies that represent a form of misuse of communication skills.
7. Often somewhat less ego development. This may seem like a negative, but it is not in many cases. Many women are less egotistical than men because of hormonal and other factors. This can be used to advantage by women, and should be. It makes them often less interested in their own selfish needs and more service-oriented. This is a real blessing, although some will see it as weakness, lack of ambition, and so on. It can also backfire and cause illness and depression if a woman is not strong enough to look out for herself, and her health and integrity. As a result, a weaker ego structure is a double-edged sword, but one that can be appreciated if one is aware of this trait of women.
8. More interested in relationships. Women often are more interested in friendships, partnerships and family relationships. Men are more likely to want to “go it alone”. In part, this is due to women needing support if they are to raise children. It may also be due to other qualities of their intellect and emotional makeup that are less well understood.
Like the others above, this can also serve women, or be a problem for them. Relationships and friendships can be vital for life and health. They can also slow a person down, damage one’s self esteem, and be dangerous. Knowing their penchant for being in relationship with others, women need to see the advantages of this, while being aware that many relationships of all types are not healthy at all. These may include keeping marriages and friendships together when really it is time to go, for example.
This is a particularly difficult challenge for some women who just want to hold on to things when it is time to leave or let go. Women must look carefully at all relationships and friendships and not allow their inclusive and relationship-orientation to stop them when it is time to change or to move on.
9. More service-oriented. This is a spiritual quality, at its basic level. Women are trained more than men, I think, to be of service, though this is lessening somewhat. To live to be of service is a very good thing. It does not mean to be a slave to anyone, even your children. It means to be unselfish and not so concerned about your own happiness as you are with the needs of others.
For example, being service-oriented is one reason why women are becoming much more successful in business today. Business success is about being of service, though some don’t understand this and think it is all about greed or other things. True business success is about service, and it is women’s strong point. It is also why women have traditionally played important roles as secretaries and other ‘support’ positions, and will continue to do so.
12. More interested in the spirit world. This is a great advantage of most women over men. Women have traditionally been the ones who dragged an unwilling family to church, for example, and who raised funds for churches. They often learned to pray and taught the children the bible and other spiritual texts.
Today, women are more interested in psychic phenomena, UFOs and other so-called spiritual matters as well. This can be very good, even though some of it is rather superficial, at times.
Sadly, women are becoming more oriented toward the physical world as their gain status in the traditionally “male” aspects of society such as politics, business, and even in a more active social life than previously, when women were expected to be at home more.
In fact, not paying attention to their more spiritual interests harms many women more than they believe. They need the soft, gentle, quiet and often more spiritual side of life and many do not allow themselves to enjoy it as they are too busy with work or play. The next section discusses this idea in more depth.
SPIRITUAL QUALITIES OF WOMEN
This section introduces several principles of living for women, in particular, though they are for everyone. If studied thoroughly, they can help women, in particular, regain mental balance, peace and health. They are as follows:
1. Life is not primarily physical. You are far more than this. This is a metaphysical idea and not easily understood by most people. You are indeed a metaphysical being having a physical experience on a third-dimensional planet. You are not a glorified animal, as many suggest today. In fact, you are a god in the making. Your essence is what may be called electrical or spiritual, not physical. Everyone is here learning various lessons and learning on many levels, many of which are unconscious at this time. We are ultimately here to bless and forgive this world.
This is the most important quality or concept of human life to be aware of, for both women and men. This truth is taught in all major religions and in most other spiritual teachings as well. However, the secular-socialist-progressive movement on earth does not teach it, and this movement has infiltrated all the public schools, almost all universities and even some churches today. As a result, this truth is not taught enough.
Life is lived in the physical world, so no one is suggesting to ignore this aspect of life or to hate it. However, women, in particular, must beware of falling into the trap of thinking that material issues in life are overly important. These include the man you are with or not with, the house you live in, the car you drive, your children’s accomplishments, your looks, your age, your grades, your college degrees or licenses, or anything else physical or material in nature.
Money as a spiritual issue. Money is often a focus of women. It is still one of the more difficult areas for many single women, in particular. However, even here, one must be careful not to think about money too much, as this is also a purely physical matter. Money does not bring happiness, nor does it bring true wealth and knowledge. It is overemphasized in society today, although that is undergoing change as some of the traditional sources of money are drying up.
Money and the service life. I have found that if you life a life of service, which is another spiritual principle, the money issue will work out, providing you learn to be very careful how your spend, invest, donate and use your money. Many women give too much away, or spend it unwisely at times.
2. Love is less about sex or romance. This is another important spiritual principle, especially for women, although it applies to men as well. Many nice women are sucked into poor quality marriages and relationships by men’s lies in this area, or by their own misperceptions that:
Lie #1. Women need a partner. Women (and men) do not need a marriage or sexual partner. One of the worst lies of the progressive movement is that sex is important. It is not that important in the larger scheme of things. Many adults finally figure this out later in life when their sexual desire declines. It is never that important and anyone who thinks it is, is moving in the wrong direction spiritually. Spirituality is not male or female or sexual. This is a tough one for many people, especially young men and women.
Lie #2. A woman must have “someone to love”. This is also untrue. Women often need safety, security, to be cared for, and then to love everyone. However, this needs to be clarified. Loving people means:
Š Caring about their welfare in a general way.
Š Perhaps learning more about a person’s situation if you wish to be of more help. Without proper knowledge, often one missteps, even when the intention is good. This is the meaning of the phrase, “the road to hell is paved with good intentions.” This is a very important principle for women, in particular. One must try to learn about a person before stepping in to “help”, date, marry, or even befriend others. Women often rush in where even angels fear to tread, thinking they can heal, correct and “love” others so they will change or suddenly stop their harmful actions. Most fail at this because they are not prepared, not strong enough and do not know what they are getting themselves into.
Š Loving can thus involve stepping in to assist others, if and when it is appropriate. Each case is different, so beware of this one, as explained in the paragraph above.
Š Loving others may be about being patient with others, especially children, but only when this is safe and appropriate, and never if it puts you in danger, even emotional danger. If a situation is not healthy, it is best to leave that situation in many cases. Leaving is often the most loving thing to do if a situation is not working for you or you are in danger of some kind. Most women are not nearly protective enough of themselves. They often are willing to protect others far more than they protect themselves, and this needs to shift before more women are raped, or at least abused in emotional as well as financial and other ways.
for women often requires some ‘tough love’. This means telling others the truth, regardless of the
consequences. It may mean standing
up for yourself when it is not polite.
It might mean telling off a friend, or your child. If possible, use tact, but often tact
is not possible and the truth needs to be revealed anyway.
Tough love is difficult for most women. This is one reason many women like having a man around. Men tend to be much better at this particular aspect of love. Women who want to be independent need to get better at it, practicing it with children, in particular, as they often need it the most. They also should practice it with everyone, however.
Lie #3. Women need sex. As explained above, this is simply not true and it often ages and sickens women when it is too much or not done lovingly. All women need to know that, as a rule, they have far less sexual desire than most men, even if it does not appear that way. Sex is about children and reproduction for women, or it should be. If it becomes more about fun, distraction, escape and manipulation or ‘playing with the boys’, then the woman has essentially become more like a man. This may play well in society today, but it never healthy for a woman and it is not really how most women view sex. Unfortunately, the progressive agenda is to train women to be sexy playmates instead of spiritual giants. Please contemplate this statement.
Lie #4. Women need to have children to be “fulfilled”. This is never true. Children are a woman’s capability, but women do not “need” to have children any more than they need to have sex or a man in their life. One can always work with children if you really like children or young people, but it is not true that a woman must have her own children. I know that the pressure on many women is often severe to have a man, have a family, have children, have sex regularly and so on. This is unfortunate and the spiritual woman will resist this pressure wherever it comes from – from her parents, her friends, her body, or elsewhere such as from the secular or religious media, for example.
QUALITIES OF A STRONG, BALANCED WOMAN
These qualities are the following:
This requires a lot of clarification. In order to be truly empowered, a woman
must let go of all her anger and her expectations, especially those involving
the men in her life. So this is
the meaning of empowered in this article.
It has nothing to do with how much money you have, how big your house is
or your position at work. It is
all about letting go of anger.
Let us discuss this in much more detail, as it is so important for women’s happiness and often the most difficult achievement for most young women, in particular. It is hard not to be angry at fathers, brothers, and boyfriends because most girls and adult women perceive themselves as victims. They believe they have been “oppressed”, “abused”, “mistreated” or maybe just “used” by men of all ages and types. These words are in quotes because they are all victim words.
The wise and empowered woman will shun these words, even if they appear to be the absolute truth and the proof is easily available. All victim words and victim thinking harm women because victims are always secretly or overtly angry and all victims are by definition powerless.
Instead, everyone, men and women, need to understand another spiritual truth - that we do not and will not easily understand many things on earth. These include why some seem to have the power while others seem to be downtrodden, miserable, starving, ill or victimized. This is hard for everyone, including women, of course. But it is the truth. Religions are often built around explaining such things. The bible states, “as you sow, so shall you reap”. Many other phrases and verses deal with this same problem. The book of Job, for example, is all about suffering, its causes and how to handle it. These can be critical for a wise woman to read and understand thoroughly. Many bible stories may seem harsh or even brutal, but they teach the same message that we are not in full control of our lives, ever, and the sooner we give up the idea that people must treat us well all the time, and that we are in control of others or even our own lives, the happier we will become.
In reality, there are no victims. This is a hard concept for women. For example, it is possible that in other lifetime, you murdered the man who raped you this lifetime. So he was just ‘evening the score’ and that all was just. In reality, you have nothing to be angry about at all.
One cannot ever know that this was not the case. This is part of the mystery of earth life. The idea of perfect justice is a hard one to swallow. It is not about social justice, financial justice, environmental justice, political justice or another phony type of justice that is taught at the colleges and even high schools today. It is not even about the correct legal concept of equal justice under the law, a far better idea but still a very imperfect one.
Universal justice is beyond our understanding, and this is the point. If a woman can grasp this idea, and give up the false notion that she was just an innocent maiden victimized by those awful, horrible men or even women in her life, she will be able to begin to give up her anger. We all have what are called ties to other people, and one reason some choose a female body can be to enable them to “pay their debts”. This is somewhat esoteric, but critical for women today. For much more on why women are angry, read Why Women Are So Angry on this website.
Š Less “female” identity. This is an interesting one. It means that a woman should strive to think of herself first as a spiritual being, or child of God, perhaps, but never first as a woman. She should not even think of herself first as a mother, or as someone’s daughter, wife, girlfriend, or any gender affiliation. These are all roles, to be sure, and perhaps vital ones. However, one’s basic spiritual identity is not that of a woman. This is very hard for women today because the media plays up one’s gender far more than is healthful, often. Real life is not about gender, a principle alluded to earlier. If you make it about your gender, you will hold yourself back and eventually it will take you in a completely wrong direction. Instead of becoming wise and powerful, it will make any woman ashamed, at times, weak, at times, and even stupid-sounding. (I think of a recent lady chosen to be a US Supreme Court justice.)
anger. Anger is common among
women. They often have plenty of
reason to be angry, beginning with early childhood experiences and extending to
unpleasant relationships with men and the “world of men” such as the business
However, a wise woman realizes that the anger only hurts her and does not make the world a better place at all. In fact, anger always disempowers anyone who has it and definitely anyone who holds on to it. Anger also reinforces the victim mentality, another trait that one should avoid. Rather than fume and fret about it, lend a hand and make the world better, at least in your little corner of it.
Š Rational approaches to problem-solving at all levels and times. This can be difficult for some women, although women are excellent at this when they choose to be.
Š Rational approaches to all aspects of life, including child-raising and other traditionally female occupations and activities. This is important because some women are very logical except in these areas.
Logical and rational thinking in area
concerned with sex.
This is important because too many women do not think clearly in this
area. They are striving hard to be
“liberated”. As a result, they
subject themselves to horrors like birth control pills, forgetting the toxicity
of the drugs. Sadly, the
progressives and socialists teach that the pill means liberation. It often just means STDs and later
cancers and heart attacks. As an aside, women are far more harmed by sexually
transmitted diseases than men.
This is due to women’s anatomy, and their possible effects upon
fertility and the health of their future children.
Similarly, some women do not use their head and a few are even encouraged by ignorant or destructive parents and friends to indulge in casual sex or even one-night stands so they can feel just like “the boys”. They do not realize the damage these behaviors do to most women, whose bodies and particularly emotions are far more delicate than that of the male ‘players’.
Š Logical and rational in the area of special “women’s rights”. Women should desire to be treated equally, but they need to realize that one cannot legislate equal treatment of anyone. Forcing men or other women to treat them a certain way is not the answer. Time is required and it will take years to break down some older beliefs and attitudes. Meanwhile, passing legislation often just causes resentment and lawsuits. Special rights for women, gays, blacks, Hispanics and others has not worked well in America or elsewhere. I know some will not agree with this, but today America is very divided, and the cause, in part, is the false emphasis upon skin color, gender, sexual orientation and other superificial human traits instead of focusing on deeper truths about all human beings and what we share, no matter what our color, gender or orientation is. The focus is wrong, so the outcome is usually wrong as well. Women’s rights is about equality, not special rights and special exceptions, and so on. This is just reverse discrimination that angers men and worsens relations between men and women. It will take some years to equalize the sexes in business, and women need to accept this and just do their best, as have most minorities until the mid-1960s changed it all. Things have gotten better in some ways, but in others they are far worse for women. Most women are totally exhausted today, in part because they are expected to be just like men when they are not at all like men and should not be insisting on doing and being like the boys. This is a theme of this article.
approach to the abortion controversy. I believe this issue will divide women for years. However, it is a woman’s issue,
primarily, so it needs to be addressed by women in a thoughtful and not an
angry or political manner. Most
thoughtful women agree that abortions are best avoided. This does not mean they should be
illegal. However, girls need to be
taught that abortions often leave emotional scars, and of course they can also
be dangerous for the body, although so can pregnancy, and often more so. However, thousands of women are left
somewhat confused, ashamed and conflicted from having abortions without
thinking about what they are doing very deeply.
In the future, I hope enlightened women leaders will discuss these problems with abortions openly and honestly, without the political overtones and rhetoric that occurs on both sides of the issue. The bible is very clear on the subject, but some believe that circumstances have changed and exceptions must be made. I agree with this stance, but each woman needs to decide for herself in a logical manner, not an emotionally charged one.
Too often, women are not given the alternatives that are available to them, such as adoption. This is shameful and a feature of Planned Parenthood, in particular, and most obstetricians and other health care providers who have been brainwashed by the male-oriented society that wants their women as playmates. They are far less interested in the consequences of loose sexual activity upon their women sadly.
Too often, women are not offered the other alternatives such as abstinence, the rythym method and careful living. This, also, is very unfortunate. Often abstinence is discussed with disdain when it should be the first option for both men and women because it is the most logical and common sense answer for unmarried and even some married women. Once again, logic and common sense must prevail, or a woman is not empowered and very smart, either.
In the future, more women will make use of novel methods of inducing a miscarriage that I believe will not scar them nearly as much as most abortions do. However, these methods of basically mind control are not widely taught, as yet. Similarly, herbs for birth control will, I believe, someday supplant the horror of medical drugs for this purpose, and will have far fewer side effects. These methods of inducing a miscarriage will not conflict with any religious teaching, and that will be very helpful for women, as well, since most want to follow religious teachings.
Š Women need to become more self-sufficient, but the way to do this is not by force of law, but by using more common sense. This means women must stop wasting their time shopping, buying presents for people who don’t care about them, and so on, and learn thrift, how to manage finances, how to keep a job, and so on. This is one area in which women are doing excellently.
SPIRITUAL, MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL DEFICITS OR WEAK POINTS FOR WOMEN THAT THEY NEED TO WORK ON IN MANY CASES
These are unfortunately many, and I will mention the most important ones. This is not to denigrate women. I mention them because if one knows one’s weak spots, one can work to heal them. Until one is aware of them, both for men and women, one is a slave to them unconsciously. This is the case, in my view, with most women today. Here are a few important ones.
Too sentimental and not realistic. This has to do with hormones, at times, but can be due to other thinking patterns. It stops many women from making the best decisions for themselves and their families. Instead, they end up in dead-end relationships, often, and often they make the same mistake over and over again. One can discuss this more, but logic and reason are the answer. So is taking your time to really get to know someone before entering an intimate relationship with that person, or even before going out with that person.
Easily swayed or gullible. This is another common pitfall. The cause is the same – a lack of logical thinking and not taking one’s time. Hormones contribute to it, but a woman must understand this and just take her time, or ask for help from very logically-minded friends if she is unsure what is going on. Women must test their men, test their friends and do whatever it takes to protect themselves and make sure all is well.
A reluctance to depend upon logic, even though they are good at it. This is related to the paragraphs above. It is the same idea, only said differently. Many women simply don’t like logical thinking. It seems boring and unromantic, and it is. However, it is a valid approach in this world of ours, and often the only valid approach. So use it, ladies, or you will pay the consequences. Give up the “I’ll win the lotto” mentality, and give up the “he’s so cute” mentality as well. Try to stay grounded, centered and relax, rather than running all the time. Rely on logical friends until you can copy their thinking style yourself.
Low self-esteem or feeling they are stupid. This is taught to many women, sadly. It is also often the result of making bad decisions in the past. Women tend to hold on to these “failures” although there is no such thing, in reality. Slow oxidizing women are more focused on the past, so the problem is often worse for them. Women must not allow these feelings to take hold, as they are quite destructive in most cases. Religion is helpful here, as can be a good friend with whom to talk things through.
Too much Anger. This was mentioned above, but bears repeating, as it is like wearing blinders for so many women. First, know that women are often more prone to anger than men. This is shocking to most women, but it is true. Stopping thinking of yourself as a poor maiden who is just righteously angry at her father or brother or boyfriend, perhaps. No anger is justified for very long. Let is go or it will ruin your life.
Rarely, anger for a short time can be used to advantage to take a stand or to leave a bad relationship, for example. However, holding on to the very idea of anger is extremely destructive in relationships and often colors a woman’s entire world view. It is also a guaranteed way to ruin one’s health and impede real spiritual growth and development. For more on this topic, read Why Are Women So Angry on this website.
Superficial. Many women have a superficial side to them, especially those that are naturally attractive. They decide to build on this natural strength and it is their undoing. They learn often as children how to exploit their looks and their bodies to get what they think they want and need. Problems with this are:
Š Most of us don’t know what we really need. Marrying the “right guy” does not guarantee happiness and love, for example. Landing the “perfect job” does not guarantee success or even happiness at work. Being popular is not what it is cracked up to be in most cases, and so on. Meanwhile, a showy appearance definitely turns off many good men and angers other women. This leads many women into alienation, isolation, fear and depression that they just don’t understand. This is a very common story.
Š The superficial life always wastes years of a woman’s life - between the shopping for the outfits, the grooming and preening, the parties, the corrective surgeries, perhaps, and other pursuits that most people believe is what life is really about. They are wrong. This is a major area of weakness for young women, in particular, as they feel they need to “be seen” and they want to explore the world, they say. They would be much better off exploring it through books and perhaps the internet, and guard their health and their bodies when they are young so they will have them later when they are wise enough to know how to use them and what to do with them.
Š Anti-spiritual. Superficiality is a purely physical focus. This always slows or entirely stops one’s spiritual movement or development. It is a death-centered approach, in other words.
in dress usually contributes to ruining women’s health. Most women need to wear socks all the
time, for example, to keep their feet warm. This is logical in cold climates and even in hot ones due to
the presence of air conditioning in restaurants and businesses. Few, however, are willing to do
so. Sleeveless dresses are pretty,
but also make one cold, as do short skirts, short pants, and other skimpy
dress. Heels are also unhealthy,
as are synthetic fashionable clothing, almost all smelly perfume, and even most
makeup. Wise women learn this
young and stay away from it all.
Wise men learn about it, too, and are far more attracted to the
well-dressed ladies, not the sexy ones.
Sadly, mothers allow their daughters to parade around half-naked today,
fearful the children will never speak to them again if they kept them home
until they are dressed properly all the time.
Other silly women’s behaviors are laying in the sun for hours, especially while slathering on toxic sunscreens, the use of chemicals such as hair sprays, hair dyes and tints, and hundreds of other cosmetics that girls are often raised on by their mothers, sadly, instead of learning how to avoid them. Other superficial ways girls and women act are to drink alcohol or use any intoxicating drug including coffee and caffeinated sodas, staying up too late, riding in cars with intoxicated friends, even for a mile or two, attending parties where they do not know enough of the people, eating junk food, jet setting around the nation or even the world if they have access to money, and believing that ‘glamour jobs’, ‘glamour locations’, and ‘glamour guys’ are real and helpful for them. In general, women need to learn early on that playing in the fast lane often leads to abortions, STDs, overdoses, and many other problems that may be difficult or impossible to recover from fully.
Š A physical focus often causes bad decisions based upon looks, money, and other superficial qualities. In other words, it is all movement in the wrong direction.
Ungrounded. This is not a traditional women’s issue, but it is a serious problem for most modern women today. Its cause is multifactorial. On one hand, women are rushing to enter the man’s world of business, recreation, leisure, often without much preparation other than college, which is terrible preparation in many ways. In other words, the women have not “found themselves”, do not even have a home or a family or even good friends, and basically have become drifters. Women traditionally stayed home until they married, and home and family was grounding for them.
Another critical reason is that women’s bodies are so ill, with high copper in almost all cases, that they cannot think clearly and logically. This makes it hard to be centered and grounded no matter what else they have going for them, including a wonderful home and family life. Another factor is that women are more spiritually oriented, as stated above, and most today forget this and have come to think that happiness lies in the physical world when it does not. This is terribly confusing for many thousands of young women. For much more general information on this critical topic for women, see the article entitled Becoming Grounded on this website.
Appeasing Or Going Along Instead of Dealing With Conflict. The cause for this is that women have
more of a need for friendship, companionship and peace than men, in
general. They often seek
adventure, instead of logic and truth.
The combination causes many women go along with the crowd far easier
than men. One could phrase this
issue that women are less likely to think through a situation clearly than men
in most cases.
As a result, women are often easy targets for astute politicians, for example, who appeal to their emotions. They are easy targets for men who want sex, for example, and tell the women how beautiful they are and how much the men love them when the men don’t have any idea of what real love is about. They are easy targets for salesmen of all descriptions for the same reason. This is why men often do better with car salesmen, for example, or other types of sales people. Women are not as equipped to deal with them, either biologically or emotionally in most cases.
This is one of the harder traits of women to overcome. It can only be done by resorting to logic, reason and common sense, taking your time with any decision, always looking for “red flags” without becoming paranoid, and then listening to them rather than excusing them or dismissing them. Most women need to know that women tend to want to go along and make peace, even when they should not do so. Male friends who really care about you can be very helpful in this regard and women should “use” their male friends when making decisions, if this is helpful for them. This is how the two sexes should be helping each other today.
The progressive liberal agenda and women. Women need to know that liberalism is not good for them. Progressivism is simply communism and it is brutal to women. Islam is brutal for women. Fascism is brutal for women. Socialism is often brutal for women. This is the truth. Some will not agree, but I challenge them to give me one example of its opposite. Women are the weaker sex and when there is little freedom and little protection for individual rights, as is the case in the above societies and systems of government, women are treated far worse.
Women also need to know that there is no” free lunch”. The welfare state sounds good to many women, such as ‘free’ health care, free child care, free retirement benefits and the like. This is called the welfare state. It is crumbling before our eyes in Europe, and America is next. We have squandered all our money with the welfare state and the warfare state, and it will be haunting our nation for years. It must be rejected, which is very hard for women, in particular, who feel they may not be able to hold their own in a “free market” or free enterprise or capitalist economy. This is simply not true, but it is the rhetoric of the left-wing media and the left-wing communist press and television in America and abroad. Free markets allow people to explore their creativity and keep their money. This is for women today. They have the brains and the abilities and free markets and free enterprise rewards these people the most. Socialism rewards those with connections and the lazy parasites. Women are often not among this group as much, so they lose out. Also, spiritually, socialism, communism, progressivism and fascism are authoritarian, totally male-centered and spiritually bankrupt.
Some will complain that this article should not get into politics. This is not politics. This is economics and most women are woefully ignorant and need to wake up before they vote away all of their freedom around the world. This, of course, is the ultimate goal of the socialists and left-wing types everywhere. Lie and cajole and promise what they cannot deliver until you elect them, so they can take away your freedom and rule you more easily. It isn’t likely to happen in America, but it has already happened in parts of Europe, the Soviet Union and Russia, China, and most of the Western world.
For more on the dangers of liberalism, see the article on this website entitled Liberalism.
Manipulating men. Many women learn very young, perhaps as a method of protection, how to manipulate men with their bodies, mainly, but also with emotional talk, lies, exaggerations, and other techniques. Some will say this is needed, and rarely it is helpful. However, it is a sad habit that wise women give up early in life when they realize how out of integrity it is for them. It literally hurts them to lie, cheat, and manipulate others. Those women who like it are fakes, and it usually catches up with them causing disease, unhappiness, depression and an early death. If a woman finds herself in a job or relationship or any situation in which she must act this way to survive, it is time to move on. Do not make excuses for this, ladies.
If your man wants a sexy flirt on his arm, something is very wrong with you for going along. That is not who you are. Mothers, sadly, often teach these tactics to their daughters at a very early age. Mothers also often love ‘pulling the wool over the eyes’ of their sons as children so they will fall for the tactics. All must be abandoned. If you are teaching this to your daughters, stop immediately and apologize to them for it. Sexy is not great. In fact, it ruins many women’s self esteem and their entire lives. Most end up on anti-depressants, in my experience.
Sadly, most women who are good at manipulating others do it wherever they go – with the mechanic, the banker, the plumber, the child’s teacher and so on.
Ladies, you need to know that most men are not as stupid as you think, though many are easy to manipulate for a while. But then they hate it, and they will take revenge on you in subtle ways so you will lose. They may even resort to violence when they figure out what’s really going on. Most often the cunning woman loses in the end. Don’t fall for the trap of thinking you can outsmart people, whether you are man or woman. Much better to practice the virtues of honesty, integrity and directness. You will not always win out, but when you do it will occur honestly. Integrity will also protect you in unusual ways, as most find out that you can’t cheat an honest man.
Quick thinking but not as consistent as men. Women often think faster and clearer than men. Men, however, are often better at just plodding along for years. For this reason, men often advance more at work and in every area, even spiritual development.
The reasons for this problem of women are complex, I believe. Perhaps women get bored faster, and this is certainly true in some cases. Plodding is actually easier for those who are less intelligent and less spiritually advanced. Some women are too easily distracted, and this is another reason they do not do well plodding for years. Others become discouraged and negative more easily than men. Others are more gullible and are talked out of their pursuits by fast-talking salesmen types who promise them instant success or enlightenment. Women need to be aware of this weakness so they do not fail in their efforts.
More depressive mentality, in general. This may sound unfair, but it is easily observable. Most women have a much slower oxidation rate than most men. They are therefore more introverted, more sensitive, with higher copper levels. They also tend more to depression and negativity than most men. They may not show this obviously, but it is the case and is reported by doctors and others who attend to women and men.
Differences in body chemistry is not the only cause, I believe. Women’s bodies are set up to bear children, and then fade away. Men’s bodies are not as prone to the pull of bearing children and then getting out of the way. This may impact women in subtle ways that causes them at middle age, particularly, to become rather depressed once the child-bearing function is done and their beauty has faded somewhat. This is a particular challenge for women as they age, and it is given all sorts of names such as empty nest syndrome, menopausal syndrome and so on.
The answer for this weakness is nutritional balancing science, I believe, not hormone replacement, botox injections, cosmetic surgery or having an affair. Replacing all the nutrients the body needs, ridding the body of toxic metals and hundreds of toxic chemicals, and balancing the chemistry can give many women a far more positive attitude about the future and make up for this problem that afflicts most women today.
Holding on to the past and more of a past orientation than a future orientation. Women tend to hold on far too much in many cases to stability rather than change. They tend to focus far more on parents, old friends, even ancestors, familiar places, familiar objects in the home, perhaps, and so on. This often leads them to hold on to memories, objects, emotions, and relationships from the past more than men.
This is partly a biochemically-related weakness of most women. It can be due to a slower oxidation rate and lower energy level in most cases, especially as women age. Even in young women, their hormone patterns do not drive them ahead the way testosterone does for men. The answer, however, I believe, is not testosterone shots for women. I believe this entirely upsets their body chemistry and can lead to illness or worse.
Other possible causes for this weakness of many women is a lower tolerance for reaching out because taking risks often requires logical or abstract thinking that women are less comfortable with. Also, many women crave stability because they are insecure with the man’s world today, though they desperately want to be part of it. So they are conflicted and it wastes their energy and wears them out. Another reason may simply be women’s greater tendency for emotional responses and sentimental feelings over logic and reason.
A greater tendency to play the victim role. This is a serious problem for some women, though certainly not all. It has been discussed above. Wise women never play the victim and always take full responsibility for their words, actions and even their thoughts and feelings. They will prune victim thoughts and feelings from their mind quickly, before they can take hold and destroy their families, relationships and businesses. This is all that needs to be said about this now.
A tendency to react with fear and to act out of fear. This is seen more commonly in women, probably for a variety of reasons including a slower oxidation rate, more copper in the tissues, less muscular development than men, more conditioning in families, and perhaps hormonal variations. Women need to know this so they can correct their perceptions and not act from fear whenever possible.
A more yin tendency in some women and attraction to yin foods, yin attitudes, and yin lifestyles and thinking. This concept was mentioned early in the article. Almost all women are more yin than men. This means they think a little differently, eat somewhat less meat and eggs, dress in a different way and so on. Some women, especially as they enter their 40s and later, instead of moving toward a more balanced diet, lifestyle and thinking patterns, move away from this and more into the yin realm. This mainly affects their health, although it could also ruin relationships and family.
Here are examples of yin that I am referring to:
Š Tending toward vegetarian diets, especially shunning red meat, eggs and cooked food. Coconut oil, sugar, piles of vitamins and minerals in all forms, green powders, fruit and juices are all extremely yin. This is how many women believe they should eat and are even told to eat by their doctors.
Š Victim attitudes, liberal and progressive thinking, socialistic ideas, fear-mongering, holding on to anger, self-defeating thoughts, low self-esteem thinking, and holding on excessively to the past, for example, that makes them feel inferior or ugly or unworthy or unloved.
Š Raw food diets. This is one of the worst. Many women learn to eat salads, smoothies, fruit and juices, thinking this is healthy for them. It is better than total junk food, but it will trap many women in a very yin condition, in our experience, and hold them back. It also ruins their health, eventually. The need is for cooked animal protein daily and loads of cooked vegetables and some cooked grains, though not wheat.
Š Fatigue makes a person much more yin, as can too much exercise by causing fatigue and exhaustion. Swimming is not as good exercise as walking, for example, because water is yin.
MODERN ROLE MODELS FOR WOMEN
There are some role models for women today that need to be studied carefully, I feel. Some are in the political arena. I will mention just a few that I admire, but they are not the only ones, by any means. These are Congresswomen Michelle Bachman and Marcia Blackburn. Another is the very controversial Sarah Palin. Some readers may not like the views of these women, but they stand apart from the others in their willingness to speak out, and that they do it not in an angry way, but in a more feminine and balanced manner. This is their strength and their accomplishment, which is not a trivial one. They are very popular among their constituents for this reason, as well as for others. They are very smart, but they don’t need to flaunt it or make fun of others, as many of the political types of people often do.