THE SEXUAL ORDER
by Dr. Lawrence Wilson
©June 2018, L. D. Wilson Consultants, Inc.
All
information in this article is for educational purposes only. It is not for the diagnosis, treatment,
prescription or cure of any disease or health condition.
Contents
Definition
What The
Sexual Order Is Not
Reasons
The Sexual Order Protects Women
Abuse
Letting Men Lead Is Not The Same As Letting Them ÒRun Your LifeÓ
Sexual Order In
The Larger Society
What Occurs When
It Is Not Followed
When The Order
Should Be Reversed
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I. INTRODUCTION - WHAT IS THE SEXUAL
ORDER CONCEPT?
Definition. The idea of the sexual order is that although
women are often just as intelligent as their husbands or male partners –
or more so, it is often best that in the case of disagreement the man should
make the final decision in important matters that involve the two of them.
The reasons for it. The
sexual order is an ancient concept. The reasons for it are:
1. Women
are more fearful than men, due mainly to physical
weakness and their smaller size. This
colors womenÕs thinking greatly and affects their decision-making.
2. A
more esoteric reason is that the universe is very yin in macrobiotic
terminology. Yin is a physics term
that means expanded and cool. The
world is yin due to environmental pollution, especially ionizing radiation,
microwave pollution due to cell phone towers, and more.
For
the best decisions, one should be balanced in terms of
yang and yin. Anyone who is more yin will be somewhat more out of balance, whereas those who
are more yang (the opposite of yin) will tend to be more in balance. Men, as a rule, are more yang than
women and therefore will often make better decisions.
WHAT THE SEXUAL ORDER IS NOT ABOUT
The
sexual order has nothing to do with anyoneÕs value or intrinsic worth in any
way. This is a common
misconception about it. Also, the sexual order is not about who is better, more
important, more loving, or who comes first in the relationship. In fact, the one who leads in any
relationship or position must serve the other and the whole.
This
applies, by the way, to things like voting in elections. A couple should ideally vote together
for the same candidates. When they
do not, it is not helpful for the relationship.
If
there is a disagreement, ladies, go with your manÕs judgment, though it may not
seem right to you. Men, as many
know, tend to vote much more conservative and less liberal than women. This is good, we say. Candidates must mainly conserve what is
good in society.
THE SEXUAL ORDER PROTECTS WOMEN
Far
from harming women, the concept of the sexual order has to do with protecting
women from harmful tendencies in their own thinking processes.
ABUSE OF THE SEXUAL ORDER CONCEPT
Problems
with the sexual order include the following:
The womanÕs feelings can be
trampled. That is, the man can make her feel
stupid or inferior as a person. He
may believe that this is the reason he should make the final decisions for the
family.
This
is never acceptable. It is not the
reason he makes the decisions. It
is the factors above, which do not at all include intelligence or general
superiority. He is the stupid one
if he think he is superior or more intelligent than
his wife.
The woman is left out of
the decision-making process. This is also always unacceptable. In all situations, he must consult her before
major decisions are made for a couple or for a
family.
She can be pushed around or
bossed around. This is also not the meaning of the
sexual order, and is always unacceptable.
Some
women choose to associate with immature or lower quality men. The idea of allowing a man to Òrun her
lifeÓ and Òcontrol herÓ then sounds despicable, and intolerable. However, ladies, this is usually
because you have chosen to pay attention to the immature, jerky men and not to
the good ones out there who would only love you, not use you. They are often the more ÒnerdyÓ, less physically
attractive ones, but a wise woman figures this out very quickly and stops
looking at the body and starts paying attention to a manÕs thoughts, feelings
and behavior, not his looks, which can always be enhanced, if needed, with
better clothing or better hygiene.
LETTING MEN LEAD IS NOT THE SAME AS
LETTING THEM ÒRUN YOUR LIFEÓ
It is
more about getting his input and allowing him to move you along in certain ways
that may seem odd or harsh, at times, but are often helpful, if you examine
them closely. This assumes, once
again, that one is mated to a good man.
There
is also nothing wrong with letting a good man control many aspects of your
life, if doing so will move you along in your maturing process. Maturing women know this, as do
maturing men. There is nothing
wrong with following your pastorÕs advice, for example, if it is wise. In the same way, there is nothing wrong
with following the advice of a wise or maturing man in a man-woman
relationship. Be very clear about
this.
Too
many psychics, psychologists and counselors mislead their clients by telling
them they must always Òbe in chargeÓ of their lives. This is simply wrong advice. Often the opposite is true. Letting others lead you is a wise move for most people, most
of the time. It will keep you
safer, cleaner in your thinking, and you will become mature much faster. To read more about becoming mature,
read How To Mature Faster
on this website.
THE SEXUAL ORDER IN THE LARGER
SOCIETY
The
sexual order concept also applies to larger societal decision-making that
involves men and women. Those who
make these decisions are presidents, legislators, and judges.
WHEN THE ORDER MAY BE REVERSED
In a
few cases, if the man and woman agree, and only then, they can reverse the
sexual order. A possible reason for
doing this is if the man is very ill or very depressed and
beaten up in some way, perhaps.
In this case, the woman may take over his role to a degree. Even in these cases, however, it is
usually best to maintain the sexual order as much as possible.
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